I am already at the end of my tether!

[SkittlesRainbow]

In the first week of January we found out we were expecting our third baby. In the same week the schools were closed and suddenly found myself expected to do 3 hours of homeschooling again. In the same week I also had an increase in responsibilities due to my colleague leaving, so am responsible for managing five teams of people, rather than two. I work full time and I have no holiday available as the new year starts in March and I used all of it for lockdown 1 childcare.

My last two pregnancies I suffered with HG, so I am really worried that this is coming. Currently I feel absolutely exhausted to the point that I can hardly stand up, very nauseous all day long, unable to cope with any type of smells, bloated to the point I can't sleep, and I have sinus pains that are giving me a terrible headache.

I just feel terrible, I am doing terribly with the school working, and I am finding it impossible to keep focus at work. I just want to go to bed and cry. I am nearly 7 weeks pregnant, and I feel like this is just the beginning and it's going to get so much worse yet. Something is going to give.

I just wondered if anyone is going through similar, or has been and is on the other side of this. I feel like it would be premature to go to the doctor until the illness gets more severe. But I can't think straight enough to make a decision, as every second of the day it feels like someone needs me.

Thanks for reading if you got this far.

I haven't experienced HG but when I was looking at their support website the other day it said that if you've had HG before then it's better to get on meds as soon as possible as prevention of it getting as bad.

It definitely doesn't sound premature for you!

I’m on my third HG pregnancy and also struggling terribly with the additional pressures of home schooling.

If you’ve had it twice before it would be unusual for you not to have it again sadly - my advice would be to get the meds prescribed and collected from the pharmacy before it hits proper.

Huge sympathies - HG is grim at the best of times with other children but a nightmare when home schooling too. I can’t even imagine factoring work into that too so perhaps it would be worth considering getting signed off for a bit. Also, would your childrens school allow them to attend if you explained the situation?

@Puddlelane123 @VNttc

Thanks for your support. I decided to call my doctors today and have some cyclizine now. The stuff made me feel worse last time but maybe you are right and get started early will prevent it from getting as bad. I will keep an eye on work and homeschooling and make some changes if I need to. My husband does not want to kids to go to school as it puts me and the teachers at risk the more that go in. Thankfully he has bore a lot of the homeschooling pressure this last few weeks for me, so I am grateful and lucky to have his support.

I'm not in the same position, but I just wanted to say I'm sure you're doing a great job and I'm in awe of all pregnant women who balance so much. I WFH anyway and my symptoms are only mild but I'm still dead on the sofa by 6pm. The fact you're balancing feeling crap with homeschooling and working and looking after your children is amazing.

Have you let your employer know you are pregnant? If not i would perhaps consider this so they are aware

@THATbasicSNOWFLAKE

I haven't told them yet. I would have done previously but my current manager and colleagues do not have families, so I imagine they will have no idea what I am really going through. They don't seem to understand what is involved with homeschooling a 4 & 5 year old. Worth giving it a try though, i will reach out on Monday.

@Andthenanothercupoftea thanks, thats really kind of you.

I just weighed myself and the scales texted me to check i was the same person thats a new one! Modern technology!

I have somehow lost 5lbs this week without hardly moving and I haven't even vomited yet. Hopefully the tablets the doctor gave will prevent that from happening.