help, scared of another loss

[FemaleLady]

I had a miscarriage in 2019, it was dreadful. i was 8 weeks by then when i had a miscarriage. i found out during my first scan that i was losing the baby. Last year October i found out that i am pregnant, so far all the scans have showed that i am fine but i cant seem to enjoy my pregnancy, i am always scared i might have another miscarriage and its getting me all worked up and stressed. I am 16 weeks this week, up for another scan in a few days and the thought of it terrifies me, what if something is wrong? how do i not get worried and stressed?

I know how you feel. Currently almost 33 weeks pregnant after two early losses. I would say it does get easier once you start to feel the baby move, which should be soon for you hopefully? It's a horribly anxious time though and it never completely goes, you just learn to adapt x

thank you for the response, you reaching 33 weeks has given me hope that it is possible, il keep clinging on to that hope for a long as i possible can

I felt the same before 20 week scan, you'll breathe a sigh of relief when you've been and seen the baby on screen! It's so sad that these feelings can tarnish the joy of pregnancy. Try and tell yourself 16 weeks is already a great milestone! There's a calculator on line that tells you the risk of miscarriage by week, it can be reassuring too when you see the risk reduce, maybe check that out x

datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer

datayze.com/miscarriage-chart

you have been such a huge help.. i literally ran to the links to check them out, great way to keep my mind at ease. its going to be my definite regular check spot, although its not easy i will try to keep motivating myself with positive thoughts. thank you so much,... this means a whole lot to me.was feeling really down

Hi OP, I had three early losses in 2016, my son arrived safely in Sept 2019 after the perfect pregnancy, but one where I feel I held my breath the entire way thinking when would something go wrong. The 20 week scan is a good marker, then 23 weeks (viability for NICU I believe), then 28 weeks third trimester... you’ve got a lot of positive milestones coming up which make your chances for a positive outcome much higher, my advice would be to look forward to these one day at a time.
Fast forward to June 2020 I gave birth to my second DS, again troublefree pregnancy and I felt SO relaxed, had a wonderful home birth... there is plenty of hope for a bright future for you. Good luck xx

Sept 2017 that should say!!

@HungryHippo20

Thank you so, so much for those links. I’m pregnant again (only six weeks!!) after a loss on August and I’ve never seen the data set out like that before, it’s really helped me today.

@FemaleLady @SmidgenofaPigeon I'm so glad they have helped you both!!! I know how it feels to drive yourself crazy with worry so every little bit of reassurance helps.
Best of luck both of you! X

@Cloud1220 thank you for the response. i will take it one day at a time