5month old & pregnant again! Help!

[ReassureMee]

So, has anyone been in this situation and come out alive 😂
Me and partner were not planning till next year to have another and didn’t think we would conceive so soon as it took a year to conceive our first, stupidly not got any contraception so it is our own doing so I don’t need to be told that.

We spoke about termination but we both disagreed and it’s not something I want to do so looks like we’ll be doing it all again in September!

Just want some reassurance. If anyone has been through similar how was it? Any parenting hacks? How hard was it?

I will be returning to work in between, so I will qualify for smp again. Just hope they don’t take the funny’s with me. I feel we’ll be judged by everyone. Apart from family cos they love kids lol.

Thanks in advance x

Ah congratulations op. There’s 17 months between my oldest two. It was perfect. Eldest DS was too young to remember life without DS2, but able to sit and play, snuggle up for a story while I fed the baby. We all napped together during the day.
I look back on those days with such fondness. We were a little team.
They are now 15 and nearly 14 and )most of the time) the best of friends. I wish I could go back and visit that time every so often. It would do my heart good.

Firstly... do not worry about what others have to say. If you're happy to have another a small age gap isn't as intimidating as it first feels.

I fell pregnant when our 2nd was just 4 months old, unfortunately I miscarried that one after coming round to the idea of having it. I fell pregnant again very quickly and we ended up with 16.5mth gap between no 2 & 3. Much easier to manage than expected, it's not much different to having twins tbh. We have a younger set of twins too, they were tiring but slot on to life pretty easily. Now we're expecting again, yep I'm one of the mad ones lol

Best of luck with your pregnancy and the little one

Thankyou both so much. Very reassuring to hear those words.

I was in complete shock at first and everything just runs through your head doesn’t it.

Now I just need to remember what I can and can’t do being pregnant, funny how you soon put those 9months into archive when your child comes 😂

I have a 14 month gap between my two. The second was planned but I had no idea I'd conceive so quickly!
Yes it's hard work but you just get on with it, you have to! Watching them growing up together is lovely, they have a great bond, especially how the youngest is starting to talk more and join in with play.
I don't have many tips as I have pretty much winged it for the last 2 years but make good use of the babies nap times! If you can get both of them to nap at the same time you're really winning!
You'll be fine

Congrats OP, I had.my two close, no regrets, I think it is far easier to have a small gap. My two DS’ are very close, DS1 can’t remember a time without his brother, so we didn’t experience any jealousy issues. I hadn’t forgotten any stages, and if we were in Pj’s all morning it didn’t matter, I didn’t need to get an older sibling to school etc.

Hiya, congratulations!

I don’t have any advice but.. me too 7m old and we’re due again in September. We were planning on another baby quite soon but didn’t know when it would happen because I’m still BFing and I’d read that it can stop ovulation. Anyway, very nice surprise but I am petrified.

Have you kept the ‘baby’ items?

@Thattwatoverthere @Roselilly36
Really glad to read those replies, feeling much better about the whole situation!

@FTEngineerM Congratulations!! So nice to have someone in the same boat as me. We’ll have to keep in touch. I too am absolutely crapping myself.

We didn’t think we could conceive just yet! How are you feeling? I’ve literally had no symptoms just a positive test.

Have got majority of DS’ stuff, all I got rid of was the Moses basket cos it was in the way. I did say to my DP “well at least we have everything” then I started to think about double prams and how inconvenient they are bonus points if we have another boy as I won’t need to buy any clothes, but I don’t actually have a preference to what the gender is. We’re going to be too busy with our first borns to notice we are pregnant ey!

Congratulations OP. I can’t offer any advice as I’m still pregnant, there will be 17 months between DC2 and DC3. DC1 is 5 years old and very self sufficient but I worry about the close age gap between DC2&3. I’ve spoken to someone I know with the same age gap and she loves it. As like as youre organised so not flustered when leaving the house that’s the main thing she said.

In terms of being pregnant with a baby/toddler, I found the beginning quite hard due to the nausea. I was still on mat leave at that point so that made it easier. I’m now 29+5 and starting to slow down how quickly I can do things like cleaning and running round after my other two but it’s nowhere near as hard as I imagined it to be at this stage. Although I’m not looking forward to the run up to my due date when I’m Huge! DS2 is 14 months old and not yet walking which has made things a little difficult due to needing to carry him and stop him from crawling under table, picking up things on the floor he shouldn’t etc. it keeps me busy though and it’s made this pregnancy fly whereas
I found my other pregnancies dragged because I had so much more spare time.

I’ve kept most of DS2s things although this time I’m having a girl so I’ve had to get a few new bits like clothes etc. Luckily I didn’t find out what I was having with DS2 so most big things were neutral anyway.
I’m not sure if you’ve thought into double prams yet. I bought a bugaboo donkey when I was about 14 weeks. It was earlier than I’d planned to buy one but I thought I’d get my money’s worth using it in single mode for DS. I absolutely love it and it’s well worth the money! I’m going to keep it when our newest has grown out of it just in case we have another baby in the future.

I hope all goes well with your pregnancy. Seeing this thread is very reassuring that those of us with small age gaps will be absolutely fine!

@ReassureMee yeah definitely, I’m taking some reassurance from the fact I wouldn’t have left or forgotten babyhood. So the sleepless nights and things are very much still a thing. I’d rather do it all in one go than start again in a few years from scratch. Maybe I’ll do that too you never know.

Oh fab you’re pretty much sorted already. Yeah same, I’ll be reusing most of DS’s clothes even it’s a girl tbh it’s lots of white grey and elephants. I’ve still got everything I think, well it’s been periodically thrown in the attic, I’m hoping it’s still fine🙈.

We’ve got an egg pram at the minute so I’ll get double adapters for about £30.

Haha that’s probably true, at the minute I just want to spew all the time, not ideal. Did you get any symptoms with your first?

@FTEngineerM yeah you’re so right with it all being done in one go. I think this little bambino will be our last now I wasn’t even sure I wanted two but now I can’t wait to experience that first hold again.

Bless you, I just had nausea and went off a lot of foods with my first. I’m going for a wee a lot but other than that I’m still not experiencing anything noticeable.

With the whole pram thing it is very much a minefield. I would rather go and see some in the flesh but doesn’t look like that will happen anytime soon i want one that I don’t have to take parts off to fold it up & put in the car.

@Spaghettiamaretti Congratulations!!! Let us know how you get on. X