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When will the urge to procreate leave me?

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suzi2 · 28/10/2007 15:50

I have a DS who is 27 months and a DD who is 8 months. Both were/are rubbish sleepers. And DD has slept so badly that we have said we can't go through it again (not that we planned to anyway). Pregnancy doesn't agree with me either and I get all sorts of bizarre things happening.

WHY oh why oh why do I have the urge for another one? or two? or three? I know that I would really like to give birth again, but that can't be the whole reason.

When do these hormones settle down???

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suzi2 · 28/10/2007 15:51

sorry, not quite pregnancy but wasn't sure where else to post this to reach the right target audience

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Pheebe · 28/10/2007 16:26

Hi suzi
for me its been about proving i can get and stay pregnant after multiple mcs. We now have a DS (3y) and another on the way (40+2 today) and despite all the stress of the first few weeks with abnormality testing etc and the last 2-3 months which have been extrememly painful and uncomfortable i still want to do it again. DH and I have decided 2 is perfect for us, more than that is just logistically impossible and for us and I can't actually imagine having 3 kids. I think you need to separate out the pregnancy and birth bit and the actual having another person in the family bit. DHs advice is to focus on and enjoy what we have
hope that helps a bit
phee

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suzi2 · 28/10/2007 17:16

that helps a lot. That's what I've been trying to get to grips with. Part of me keeps thinking "I can't believe my baby days are over" but the other part can't imagine another child in our family.

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gibberish · 28/10/2007 17:20

Suzi, I was incredibly broody after each of my children despite horrendous labours and them no being particularly easy babies.. am convinced it was all hormones but logic didn't kick in until I had 4. Even then I was desperate for a fifth.

dd4 is now 6 and I think it took me until she was about 4 and life started getting easier for us that I realised I didn't actually want to go back to the baby stage. Now the thought of having another fills me with dread!

cazboldy · 28/10/2007 17:21

I still feel like that and i have got 5 dc!
my last baby is now nearly 7 months and this time i have given all the stuff away as she has grown out of it. yesterday i gave her crib away and i ended up crying my eyes out!
but haven't got room for another, would need another car......practically speaking, it would be really hard.
Im only 26 and I think it would be easier if i was older.........I just can't imagine never having another baby!

juuule · 28/10/2007 17:32

It never really left me. Unlike you, though, I could always imagine another child in the family.

sKerryMum · 28/10/2007 17:34

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fawkeoff · 28/10/2007 17:36

i knew deep down after having DD that i wanted another baby.DS is now 2 and i have no urges whatsoever to go through all that again, they will always be my babies

cazboldy · 28/10/2007 17:39

friends of mine have said that they knew as soon as their last one was born that their family was complete. i feel in my head that mine is, but not in my heart iycwim (if that makes any sense?

beeper · 29/10/2007 15:14

I lost the urge totally after 4 pregnancys and only having one child to show for it.

I am currently 14 weeks and still have no urge.

pattilou · 29/10/2007 16:07

I found a puppy did the trick! (and babysitting our neighbour's baby)

Nettee · 29/10/2007 17:34

I expect I will be broody forever - but one of them has to be the last. DD is only 6 weeks old but I am so sad that I will never be pregnant again and never have another snuggly warm baby. And this is despite the misery of morning sickness and a three week hospital stay at the end of pregnancy.

cazboldy · 30/10/2007 09:43

congrats beeper.
animals don't help me............have them coming out of my ears...cows,horses,dogs, a cat, a parakeet, a rabbit, chickens, ducks oh yeah, and 5 children!

Fennel · 30/10/2007 09:47

The urge to have more left me and DP totally when we had a third. I tried to stop at two but kept having those niggling wanting another feelings. Since having 3 they are totally utterly gone. In fact now I'd rather chew my own arm off than be pregnant again. I think for some of us having "just one more" does stop the broodiness effectively.

bealcain · 30/10/2007 11:09

Suzi - i totally unerstand how you feel. i've got DS, 1 is 25months the other is 8months. i was broody as soon as DS2 came out, literally as i was pushing i remember saying can i have another to my DF! madness!

caz - totally know what you mean, i'm only 20 and DF doesn't want anymore so i am stuck with the possibility of never having more children, at 20.....awful!

Celery · 30/10/2007 11:13

Fennel, that's exactly like me. I thought I would always feel broody, but now I've had no. 3 I just don't anymore. It's a great relief actually.

ratclare · 30/10/2007 17:52

i have 2 dcs and every single cell in my body screams out every day for one more ! am slowly but surely wearing my dh down before i pickle my ovaries !

becaroo · 30/10/2007 17:52

I dont feel broody exactly but just....empty. My ds is 4 and starts school in january and I was 35 a couple of weeks ago which probably isnt helping...wish someone could stop the ranting hormonal gibberish I can ear in my head 24/7

Surely If I were sure I didnt want another, I would just "know"?

crazymother · 30/10/2007 20:07

This is just so where I'm at. Have got 4 kids 5, 3, 18 months and 5 months. Have had my share of pregnancy complications and horrendous PND/ anxiety after number 3 (which I am only just recovering from) and which lead to an untimely number 4. Yet there's still this voice in my head saying that we have 2 free seats in our 8 seater car.....

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suzi2 · 30/10/2007 21:40

So glad to know that I'm (fairly!) normal. I'm sure that a lot of this is because I'm packing up all my baby stuff to hand down to my cousin. I keep seeing all the little things and just remembering the good times. And I know I'm remembering it all wrong and it's rose tinted. But I can't help it.

DH has said no to a puppy/kitten lol. Maybe I should just hang around my cousins girlfriend and mollycoddle her little one when he arrives

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PotPourri · 31/10/2007 14:49

I always wanted a big family, and have got a number in mind. I think realistically there is only so much room in my house, and there are only so many kids we can afford. I am working for as long as I can to set things up. But I have the number in mind, am trying not to put pressure on myself to get that number, and just trusting that I will 'know' when I have had enough.

crazymother, what 8 seater car do you have?

crazymother · 31/10/2007 20:30

Potpourri- we have a Fiat Ulyses- has been very good so far.

omeN666 · 31/10/2007 20:34

I feel like this on and off now
After ds[4] I knew 100% I wanted more
same with dd1[22m] although dh was sure he didnt want more.
Then we had dd2[10m],from having her I have felt more complete than before,although now as she is less baby and more toddler I am finding myself questioning if we are really done..Dh and I have decided to wait until dd2 is 2 then we will decide finally if we are done.

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