Husband gone off me...?

[MrsW150917]

Hi all I'm 31 and half weeks pregnant.

Since I'd been around 20 odd weeks my husband had gone off the idea of us having sex. I do get it that some men can be a little freaked out by the thought of 'poking the baby'
But we still managed to be intimate in other ways of course.. however past couple of weeks we've not done anything, so I tried to get a little intimate this evening but NO. Not even in the 'other intimate ways' nope. Nothing. Not interested. Just said he can't! He wasn't nasty about it or anything, he hugged me and said can we cuddle on the sofa instead please.

Although naturally it did make me feel a little sh*y but I just wondered if this is common ladies? And I'm hoping after baby here it goes back to normal???

Thanks

It's very common....he thinks of you as 'part baby' now...so it's offputting.

It usually goes back to normal though once the baby arrives. Sorry you felt shitty but it's not personal.x

My partner has been keen for sex the whole way through, but yesterday at 34 weeks said to me that now he can see the baby moving most of the day it's off putting. I think it's normal for this stage

Yeah mine was fine until about 25 weeks but recently (I'm now 35 wks) said he can't do it anymore because the baby is "there". To be fair the last time we did it I didn't tell him (because I knew he'd be weirded out) but the baby was kicking me the whole time, which I did find a bit weird too!

I sit and wonder how my husband finds me attractive during pregnancy lol theres no glow about me apart from maybe glistening sweat lol tbh I dont even blame him! That being said he would never turn down other intimate acts that involve litrle effort on his part if you get me lol 😂

My DH was a trooper pretty much all the way through but I did wonder how he managed it towards the end and have a sneaking suspicion it was more about caring for my feelings and not wanting to upset the very heavily pregnant DW than actually finding me irresistible!

If memory serves, it tailed off quite a bit towards the end anyway because I was just exhausted and huge.

Assuming all else is good with your relationship, I honestly don't think it means anything bad or that you should take it personally if you can avoid it. I've always thought I'd find it difficult to separate the idea of baby from partner if things were the other way around and even felt a bit weird about having sex myself while I knew DC were in there!

Lol it appears I'm not alone which I didn't think I would be it's just always reassuring to hear others say it too.. and I think because we have an active little bubba and he does move around a lot just lately it probably is quite off putting I suppose.
I just hope after baby here it can go back to normal once I'm feeling a bit better in myself!

Thanks all 😘 have a lovely weekend and stay safe x

As soon as I got a BFP on first response my DH went off me 🤣 exacerbated by fact that it was a twin pregnancy so noticeable bump by 9 weeks. Some men find pregnant women really attractive - others just don't! When pregnant With DD I used to get quite upset about it and feel rejected but was more prepared this time round and to be honest when bump was bigger I really didn't feel attractive enough to do anything anyway 🤣

Very common. Also very common for things not to go back to normal after the birth, whether that's because you feel differently, or he feels differently, or both. If things do not go back to normal then make sure you talk to him, as it would be a mistake to think that things will just get better in time if you wait.