Pregnant + new job anxiety

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I applied for a new job within my company (I've been with them for 6.5 years) back in November, I was due a change and I decided to go for a promotion outside of my business unit. We started TTC in November as well, for a few reasons I thought we would have some issues conceiving but we were incredibly lucky and caught first time.

I got my BFP on the day of my interview and I was offered the job the following week. I'm now 9+2 and about to start my new job on Monday. I've met the team and started receiving a handover, it's an extremely busy role with a big learning curve.

I know that I am extremely fortunate to be in this position in both parts of my life but I am completely anxiety ridden, suffering imposter syndrome. I think it could take me at least 6 months to become effective in this role and then I'll be leaving for mat leave. I'm terrified to tell my new team/boss and I don't feel excited about anything.

Has anyone had experience of starting a new job and then having to go on maternity leave fairly soon after? I know they have to be supportive but I feel this immense guilt for taking the job knowing I was pregnant. Maybe I should have stayed put in my job/grade . Any similar experiences?

When I started my job, I fell pregnant within 2 months. My boss kept referring to me as a permanent employee and how much of a different being permanent and here for the long run would be so much better for the other companies we work with compared to the last 18months of temps and mat covers. I was so nervous about telling her after my 12 week scan, but she was so lovely about it. Unfortunately that pregnancy ended at 20 weeks, but she's been just as lovely about my new pregnancy (I'm 9+5 btw). I think we feel guilty because we wana do a good job and not let anyone down, but I think it also happens more than you think and they probably do expect it from women in a certain age group.

Just be honest, once you're ready to tell of course. It's exciting news, and I'm sure they'll be happy for you! It'll feel like a huge relief once you've opened up it, I'm sure! Congratulations! On both the job and the baby lol.

Thank you @RunnerGirl123! It's good to hear how it went for you. As soon as we've had a 12 week scan and all is looking good, I will let them know at least that will take some of my worries away. The early stages of pregnancy feel quite lonely because I can't talk to any of my friends as I normally would. Congratulations on your pregnancy x

Congratulations on your promotion! I made a side move during this pregnancy, which I had to as the project I was on was ending, and got nothing but good wishes.

Its been a bit frustrating to not be able to throw myself into it fully as I'm not getting the longer term projects but that will be there when I return.

People changes are part of life for management so you won't be the first or last, it won't be as bad as you think and you have time to get settled and it'll be there after mat leave.
Don't feel guilty, my DH is currently in the lurch and recruiting as multiple male members of staff left at once for a variety of reasons, at least you'll be coming back!

Can't offer any constructive advice but just here to say I understand your concerns OP!

I should hear back about a pretty big promotion I've interviewed for tomorrow or Friday, and we've been TTC since last summer. I just have a feeling that if I get the job I'll end up pregnant soon after and it's giving me the jitters! My company will be alright because they have to be, but I can't imagine our MD would be thrilled

Seriously if you conceive and take a year off it will pass in the blink of an eye and if you go back after ML you could be there for the rest of your career. The time will fly for you and for them and it's a tiny fraction of an overall career span. Good luck!

Literally same as me got my dream job during covid crisis! Fell pregnant very quickly.

Started my job on the Monday and then had a positive test on the Friday!!! I've waited for my probation period to pass literally told my boss on Monday I'm 18 weeks! She was super nice and curtious but probably wanted to cry inside my job is super demanding and key as I'm working with the executive team on £££ projects! I was super scared and I must say it ruined the first trimester for me because I worried about them so much! Also I felt super sick but had to be a top performer and contributer in meetings 😂😂😂😂😂

The job will still be there - you have a bigger job now you're growing a human!!!! I keep reminding myself that 😂😂! I personally would tell them in 3 months time but that's me ❤️ they will respect and honour you!