Early Miscarriage but still have symptoms

[LindosDreams]

I am 41, have a 4 year old son and have been TTC for a couple of years now. I have been pregnant 4 times since and have miscarried them all. First was missed miscarriage, found out at 11 weeks, 2nd just 5 weeks which happened naturally just like a period, 3rd was the worst, another missed miscarriage, found out at 9 weeks then at 2nd confirmation (of loss) scan they said it was twins which both had been lost. As had 3 by that point they took bloods and also tissue for chromosome testing. That was in August 2020 and I still haven't had all results back, consultant is being terrible and I have to keep phoning hospital for answers. Anyway, in the meantime I have got pregnant again. Wasn't very hopeful to be honest and yes it happened again. It was different this time though, had a gush of blood and clots and then like a period afterwards for a few days. I was around 5 weeks again. Thing is, my breasts hadn't been sore at all but a couple of days after the initial bleed, they have become very sore and feel heavy like with previous pregnancies (before those loses). Is this just my body playing tricks on me and hormone levels still rising or could I still be pregnant?? This happened to anyone else? Please excuse my grammar, typing fast before bed as I'm also still getting very tired! The bleeding started on 7th Jan and boobs still sore and heavy today.

Hi LindosDreams.

I'm so sorry to her about your losses. I also have had similar losses so understand the pain 💔.

Have you tested again since your blood loss?
I guess that is the only way you will know for sure.

I am going through the same thing as you right now. I implanted late at 12dpo on Sunday evening, I had implantation cramps in my lower back, I have experienced them before in successful pregnancies and know implantation cramps are a different feeling to AF cramps. Anyway today 14dpo I got my BFP. I have also started bleeding this evening and dont feel like it will let up. I fear this will end in early miscarriage but for now I will hold on to any hope because that is all I have.

I have no idea how this will end for either of us but just wanted to let you know you are not alone.

Keeping my fingers crossed for you x

Hi Becxs, thank you for your message. I've not tested since as I've run out of tests and was just waiting to see how things pan out really. With the previous losses I've still had a positive test weeks after the loss so I wasn't sure if it would help to test again so soon after? I think I'm just clutching at straws, I know in my heart that it's another loss. Each time I think, ok that's it, I'm too old, stop putting yourself and your Husband through this, time to hang up your ovaries. But then another voice always says just have one more try.

Are you able to call EPU and get an urgent scan? I know there isn't always much to see at 5 weeks but it's still worth a try.
I'm so sorry you've had to go through all of this. Hope you get some answers soon x

I tested this morning and BFN, the bleeding continues, sadly this was not a sticky baby for me.

I am however blessed with children already like yourself and I am also 40 so perhaps in the older age range but by no means too old. Follow your heart and dreams, never give up hope.

Best of luck LindosDreams

Becxs, also meant to say, I'm so sorry that you are also going through the same thing. Xxx

I'm sorry you are going through this OP. I've been in a similar position.

It generally takes a couple of weeks for my symptoms to fade after a miscarriage.

I just wanted to say that I'm 40 soon and am now 19 wks following 3 miscarriages since my last successful pregnancy. I also had 4 before my daughter. I know how hard it is to keep trying only to deal with loss after loss but I don't think you are too old to keep trying if that's what you want to do.

I've just tested again as my boobs are still sore. It says 3+ weeks (5+ weeks) which adds up to what I'd expect it say. I'm so confused, I know it can take a while for hormones to drop but shouldn't the test be reading lower than I'd expect by now? I started bleeding over a week ago now on 7th Jan xx

You need to go to EPU today. You need to rule out ectopic pregnancy

Has your bleeding stopped OP? I think you should be seen by EPU as the poster above said. But I don’t think most are open at the weekend - ours certainly isn’t. If you’ve no pain or bleeding I would wait and speak to them on Monday. Please keep us posted x

Bleeding (even very heavy bleeding) doesn't always mean miscarriage. The only way to be sure is to ask to be referred to an early pregnancy unit for a scan.
Fingers crossed for you.

Thanks all. I've actually got a telephone appointment with my GP this morning to discuss fertility referral as the last miscarriage letter from the hospital has only just made it to her. I will discuss with her then. I'm thinking maybe retained products? Didn't want to go through all this again with scans etc, hoping it would just pass naturally 😔

I’m so sorry OP - I never want to set foot in my EPU again and agree it’s easier just to process your loss quietly at home. I hope your GP can help. Even though my tests took a while to go negative it wasn’t usually this long and they usually faded quite quickly. I do have a little bit of hope for you.

Sorry your going through this & already have with the past experiences so know what could be coming. I am holding hope for you ❤️
Hope you don’t mind me jumping in your post.

I’m 4w5d today.., maybe .. been bleeding since Thursday night.. not as heavy as period.. light to medium my normal flow but obvs thinking the worst. Test still showing positive but know that can happen for a bit. Testing daily so holding on to a tiny glimmer of hope but reality is checking in the majority of the time.
How long did peoples test take to go negative?

Spoke to the GP and she didn't really seem interested in the current miscarriage, she just said it can take 3 weeks for hormones to drop. I'm being referred for recurrent miscarriage now though so at least that's something. I'll test again next week and see what that says.
Lilmissca, sorry to hear that you are in a similar situation. Let me know how things turn out for you. Sending good luck hugs xxx

Thank you.. Oh my 3 weeks for hormones to drop!

Glad you got the referral hopefully tests are all quick enough for you! And love to you for your test again next week xx

OP - sorry for your losses. Agree it may be the same again, and I don’t want to introduce false hope, but as PP have said not all bleeding means miscarriage. it could be worth asking your GP to arrange a couple of hcg tests 48-72h apart? If rising and >1000 then worth a scan, if falling that tells you a bit sooner and with more certainty than the urine tests.
Good luck

Did another test today, tomorrow will be 2 weeks after bleed. Came up positive and line strong. Think I probably need to get booked in for a scan. I'm thinking maybe retained products.

I think you definitely need a scan, the line is still strong, I have everything crossed for you xx

Had a scan and it's showing a sac and what looks like the start of a pregnancy, no heartbeat or anything. Need to confirm in a couple of weeks with another scan but I've been here before and I know it's gone, this is just procedure for the hospital.
Time to hang up my ovaries this time, can't go through this again. Although I said that last time and the time before that 😂😢

Hi - just wanted to still wish you luck, I read back to see how many weeks you would have been for the scan and thought it may still be possible it’s too early - depends on initial dates etc. again though perhaps what your gut is telling you is right. Hope you don’t have to wait much longer for your next scan.

Also wondering if maybe your dates were slightly out. If you were only about say 4 weeks on 7th Jan when u started bleeding then had a scan on 22nd and were barely 6 weeks they would more than likely just see a sac and start of baby

Looking for similar experiences to find some reasurance.

I came off contraception in September had a period every 4 weeks and last period started 21/12/23. Lasted 5 days.. January I didn't have a period. Tested on 21st which was negative. Tested on 24th which was very faint. Tested on 28th was a positive with darker line. I started to bleed on 27th Feb just spotting so wasnt too worried. Went to EPU and had a scan on 3rd March. The lady doing the ultrasound couldn't see so did an internal one. She said are my dates wrong at all and I was so sure due to my last period date I would be about 10 weeks. (I know your not actually pregnant the first two weeks or so but they usually go by when you last had a period) they advised me it looks like a missed misscarriage because I'm showing only 6 weeks. I then went to another room really upset and had to wait for a report. After I went to another room to give the report to the midwife who asked if my dates could be wrong. I said well I had a negative test in January then explained my periods were usually irregular but we're every 4 weeks since I came off contraception. She said they may not be regular and I may have ovulated mid January and just before coming on actually fell pregnant. She then told me I am having twins which was a massive shock. Then said I have a sub chorionic hematoma next to the sac but that it's not harmful to the pregnancy due to being next to the sac not above it? She also said it looks like a healthy start to a viable pregnancy and that due to the Sub chorionic hematoma (SCH) I will continue to bleed and may have clots and be heavy with cramps too. I said my pregnancy symptoms such as sore breast and tiredness was extreme a few weeks ago and is starting to fade and she said that could be normal aswell. She wanted to be positive and said as of now I am still pregnant and all is well but I then went home and started to bleed a lot more and was up all night with severe cramping. I didn't go to A&E as I could manage it but I didn't sleep at all. Early hours of the morning I passed a huge ball like clot and then since then have continued to bleed a light flow and have some cramping. I am so confused as to whether I just had a misscarriage or it's the SCH. I have to go back next week to see if the pregnancy has progressed. They said in the last scan it was too early to see heart beats but there was two yolks and a sac. I am super nervous and unsure what to think. Other than bledding and cramping I have no sore boobs anymore. I never had nausea with this pregnancy and I thought with twins it would be worse. My tiredness has improved and the only things I notice that are different is constant eye twitching, itchy nipples and pain in my lower back and thighs. Has anyone experienced anything even remotely like this? I also did a test just now which was positive but the line is quite faint. I'm so sure I'm having a misscarriage it's all I can think about it. I just want it to be over so I can try again :(

Wow this post has brought it all back to me with me starting this thread back 2021 (just popped up in my email).
It's a few years on now and 5 miscarriages in total. I'm sorry you are going through this, you don't get straight answers from anyone. We decided to stop trying after the 5th miscarriage as age wasn't on my side (42 at the time).
Even though I would have loved for my son to have a sibling, we are honestly so happy as a 3, we're like best buddies ❤️ What ever happens for you, I wish you all the luck and happiness 💕