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Think I might be miscarrying

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Enola41 · 11/01/2021 09:20

Hi, I'm 11 weeks pregnant with my second. On Saturday I started having bright red spotting. I phoned EPU and they said to keep an eye on. The bleeding has gradually got heavier over weekend. This morning it is like a light period type bleed and very light cramping. I phoned EPU but they won't see me unless it I'm passing clots and bleeding heavily. They have also said that they have no scans available and I will have to wait until my 12 week scan which is next week.

I'm so upset and feel very let down, I know there is a pandemic on and EPU are busy but I don't feel like they were taking me seriously.

I just want to know either way but I have a horrible feeling that I'm miscarrying but won't find out unless it gets a lot worse or have to wait till next week. My hubby has been great and I have been trying to concentrate on my daughter but it's so hard.

Sorry I needed to get this off my chest.

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Mishmased · 11/01/2021 09:27

@Enola41 so sorry you're going through this. Can you go to A&E? Or be seen privately? Giving you a virtual handhold and lots of strength.xxx

Birdladybird · 11/01/2021 09:30

Maybe have a private scan if you don't want to wait? I hope everything is ok x

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Enola41 · 11/01/2021 09:32

Thank you @Mishmased. I'm trying not to show my DD how upset I am and act normal. It's not heavy enough to go to a&e. I've called the doctors this morning and waiting for a call back.

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SmidgenofaPigeon · 11/01/2021 09:34

Can you ask your GP to phone the EPU on your behalf? That’s what I had to do to get seen as they weren’t very interested when I was misscarrying until the GP told them to call me. I still had to wait a few days to be scanned but it was over a bank holiday weekend. And they were not busy, at all, I was the only one there and they were just standing around chatting, but I know everywhere is different.

CatandBaby · 11/01/2021 09:36

Unfortunately pandemic or not, this tends to be the NHS attitude to "early" miscarriages. I'm sorry, I know it feels like no one is taking it seriously when it feels pretty bloody serious to you Flowers

Personally I wouldn't go to a&e in the current situation. You'd be putting yourself at risk of covid and it won't actually change the outcome. I'd look into getting a private scan if you can afford it.

Sorry this is happening Flowers

Mishmased · 11/01/2021 09:45

@Enola41 take it easy and hopefully your gp will refer you to epu.

Haggertyjane · 11/01/2021 09:46

The only option is a private scan, but either way it won't change the management timescale. Needing to know is so important though. ☹️

SmidgenofaPigeon · 11/01/2021 09:49

I don’t think A&E is a good option unfortunately- yes because there’s a pandemic on and likely you’ll be waiting for hours to be seen but also unless the bleeding or pain is really bad they would probably just refer you to EPU.

SmidgenofaPigeon · 11/01/2021 09:50

It’s hard though, and I fully understand the need to feel like you are doing SOMETHING, because it’s horrible and it feels like it’s completely out of your control.

cirrusminor · 11/01/2021 09:53

@Enola41 Sending you love OP. I don't have any useful advice but the same happened to me during the first lockdown - wasn't scanned or seen and was told to just let it pass at home. I hope you can get the help and support you need from the doc/EPU eventually xx

ShalomToYouJackie · 11/01/2021 09:56

I'm sorry OPFlowers

As a PP said this does seem to be the general attitude with the NHS with early miscarriages. I've experienced very blunt and uncaring people at the end of the phone when calling about bleeding and pain in early pregnancy.

I wouldn't go to A+E either, I'd ring your GP and see if they can refer you to EPU or see if anywhere is open near you for a private scan, they're about £50-80

Jobsharenightmare · 11/01/2021 10:00

I'm so sorry OP. Unfortunately there is nothing they can actually do so they can't justify bringing you in because you want to know, when you don't actually need medical attention. I have been there I know how awful it feels. Have you got some real life support?

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Enola41 · 11/01/2021 10:04

I have my husband, he's been very supportive. Once I tell my wider family I'll have much more support.

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KeepSmiling89 · 11/01/2021 10:08

Hi OP. So sorry to hear this.
I don't know if this helps but I heard that spotting and light cramping is still quite common in early pregnancy.
I had an MMC last year and, with medical management, I miscarried, but it wasn't just light cramping. It was full blown contractions (what I assume labour feels like...I wouldn't know as it was my first pregnancy) for about 2 hours straight, followed by just under a week of bleeding.
I know everyone is different, and this probably won't put your mind at ease, but I think if it's a MC, it's much more intense than just light cramping.
I was so lucky to have a positive experience with my EPU so I'm so sorry they're not being very supportive especially given your anxiety about it just now.

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Enola41 · 11/01/2021 11:10

I'm so sorry that so many have gone through this. I have an appointment with the doctor and will go from there.

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Enola41 · 11/01/2021 12:47

I've had some swabs taken by the doctor and she managed to get me booked in for an scan on Thursday. The bleeding is getting heavier, my hubby remains optimistic but I'm resigned to the fact that I've lost the baby.

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CatandBaby · 11/01/2021 14:15

I'm sorry OP. Sending hugs x

Elouera · 11/01/2021 14:25

So sorry OP. I went through this during the 1st lockdown. EPU wouldnt scan me, despite my bleeding getting heavier and I MC at home. Even then- they didnt scan me!

I've read of many cases on MN where they bled and it was a haemorrhage and baby was ok. Hugs and a handhold. let us know how things go.

If things dont go well, this website might be useful. They also have a chat line if you need to speak to someone for support. xxx
www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/

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Enola41 · 11/01/2021 15:16

Thank you everyone, I really appreciate the support. I'm so lucky in so many ways. I have a beautiful amazing DD, a loving husband. I'd always hoped for a second child but had come round to the fact it was not going to happen. Finding out I was pregnant at 41 was a shock but a happy one for me.

I'm trying to remain pragmatic about it all but feel desperately sad. I have a scan with EPU on Thursday so I'll definitely know by then.

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KeepSmiling89 · 11/01/2021 15:46

You'll be feeling a whole bunch of emotions all at the same time OP and it will feel overwhelming. There's no right or wrong way to feel in these situations so just ride through your emotions as you need to.
Fingers crossed for you and lots of love.

Sceptre86 · 11/01/2021 19:29

Fingers crossed for you op x

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Enola41 · 14/01/2021 11:06

Unfortunately I had a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks.

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Wiggleinherwalk · 14/01/2021 11:12

Oh @Enola41 I'm so sorry to read that you're having a miscarriage, it's so unfair Flowers
Sending love

savemejebus · 14/01/2021 11:22

So sorry to hear that, sending 💕 and take care of yourself x

CatandBaby · 14/01/2021 11:58

I'm so sorry OP Flowers

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