Miscarriage again :(

[worrybug3]

Hi guys, just kinda venting/asking to share experiences...
I had a blighted ovum in August and started bleeding at around 7 weeks. I then became pregnant again in December and went for an early scan today. I should have been 8+2 but they could only see a small yolk sac but no embryo. The sonographer said the yolk sac was measuring small and asked if I could be earlier than I thought but I found out I was pregnant around 3 weeks so I know that can't be possible. I've got an internal scan at the hospital Tuesday but from experience I just know this is another blighted ovum.
I'm just so heartbroken. I've had no pain or bleeding, I've had every symptom in the book! Nausea has been horrendous so I thought it was a good sign.
I'm just worried that now I've had 2 blighted ovum, it must mean there's an underlying issue but I know they don't do any tests until 3 miscarriages. Do I try again? Very confused right now!

Any experiences would be appreciated. With the last miscarriage I started bleeding naturally but this time I don't know what they'll do. Has anyone been through this?

So sorry to hear you are going through this... are you definitely sure of your dates though? I am 9 weeks today and I found out 6 weeks ago tomorrow. Granted I found out very early, but if you found out 3 weeks ago then it’s entirely plausible that you could be 6/7 weeks rather than 8 + 2
Hope you get positive news on Tuesday x

@BabyC21 my last period was on 12th November and I found out on 3rd December so that would make me 3 weeks pregnant when I found out. I also did a clearblue digital which I know isn't the most accurate but I watched it progress from 1-2 weeks to 3+ weeks confirming that I conceived when I think I did. We also didn't have sex after 22nd November so there's pretty much no chance I'd be any earlier than I think I am unless the baby has just developed very slow which I think is really unlikely. I'll obviously wait until Tuesday to see since that'll be an internal scan but I don't have much hope :(

So sorry to hear this, it must seem like a really long time to wait until Tuesday for your scan.

I did have two miscarriages in a row and it was devastating - I had the same concerns about underlying problems but I was assured that’s not necessarily the case and that’s why they only offer the tests after three. I realise that doesn’t make you feel any better when you are going through it though.

Hope all is well at the scan on Tuesday x

I’m really sorry to hear that @worrybug3 I hope Tuesday brings some positive news or at least an answer. As I understand it, blighted ovum’s are more common than we think, many miscarriages that happen at early stages are blighted ovum’s just not that many people get early scans. However thankfully they don’t believe it means that there’s a bigger issue. If things don’t work out You should definitely try again when you are feeling ok mentally to. However, it would be worth speaking to your doctor to see if there’s any advice or tests that can be done and what supports could be offered for when you next get pregnant - progesterone, blood thinners etc but in reality neither of them would change the outcome of a blighted ovum unfortunately. Take care of yourself xxx

@RunnerDuck2020 @BabyC21 thank you both, it's really upsetting but we're just going to wait til Tuesday and then see if we can speak to someone about whether they recommend trying again. I think we've both agreed that we will try again when we feel ready and just be very cautious but hope this is just completely random and unfortunate.

I wanted to offer my sympathy as the waiting part is so hard. I am hopeful for you that there will be some good news but best to prepare for the worst too.

I suffered two back to back miscarriages and it is heartbreaking although the second wasn't as bad as the first - I don't think I allowed myself to connect the same.

We nearly gave up but my partner asked to try one more time and we are nearly at 38 weeks now.

Take care my lovely

@welshladywhois40 thank you and congratulations! I'm really hoping this is just 2 random miscarriages

I'm really sorry to hear you're going through this and it always good to vent! Please know that many women experience miscarriages and go on to have successful pregnancies. My friend had two miscarriages in a row and went on to have a successful pregnancy afterwards. I myself had a miscarriage in April and am now 15 weeks. My advice would be let yourself and your partner heal from the losses and try again when you are ready.