Miscarriage

[Graced05111991]

Hi all,

I'm 5 weeks and started miscarrying this week and it we confirmed from bloods today.

I obviously want to try again but I'm also petrified it will happen again.

How do you cope with the anxiety? I feel like two lines on a test sadly doesn't mean a happy ending now and as much as I would want to be excited I feel like I can't be until later on in pregnancy.

I struggled this time round with anxiety even before miscarriage and this next time round I'm not sure how I'll cope!!

Just looking for some positive stories etc. Thank you xxxx

Try setting other long-term goals besides a possible pregnancy that you can look forward to. For example taking a months-long course in something that will further your career or business, so you have accomplishments to look forward to and that will be helpful whether or not you have a baby. Make sure your life is multifaceted, do not hyper focus on one thing, keep busy, have a generally good time.

@Graced05111991 firstly I'm so so sorry about your MC, I had an early MC in October 2019. We started trying again straight away and I knew if I fell pregnant again I'd be so scared, I got a positive in October 2020 again and am currently 15 weeks, I was so scared of MC again and I still am, I think it took some of the excitement and joy away, but they are so so common early on and statistically uou are much less likely to have a mc again in your next pregnancy! All my scans are showing well and we find out next week if it's a boy or girl, but I don't think the fear will leave, but it doesn't mean it's going to happen again xxx

@AnxiousAnnie86 Thank you that's really helpful xxx

@anniebu thank you, good idea xx

If you feel ready to have a baby you have to just go with it. The worry never stops but it's worth enduring.
I know how hard miscarriage is as I've had 5 now and around 8 weeks pregnant again atm. After my 1st miscarriage I didn't feel ready to try again for a long time and I miscarried the next one too, then we had our son and as worrying as every little thing was it was worth all of it. I had my last miscarriage in July, I'd had a scan and they confirmed a heartbeat of that little one. It was in a perfect little ball when it came out and it was soul destroying holding my baby 31 weeks too early but just 5 months later I got bfp with this one. My symptoms have been much stronger this time round which I'm glad of because it's reassuring.
Good luck with ttc, I hope the next time ends in joy.

@Chelyanne thank you, enjoy your pregnancy xx

We’re often braver and more resilient than we realise. For me, knowing I’d gone through mc before helped me approach early pregnancy in a more grounded, perspective way. I knew there was no guarantee things would work out, but that if they didn’t, I could handle it because I had before. When it happened again (and again) I was devastated - but I was less surprised or shocked than friends who hadn’t given any thought to the possibility that it might happen to them. Good luck

@90snostalgia2020 Thank you, any luck for you now? Xx

I had counselling after my miscarriage and again when I found out I was pregnant the next time. I found it really helped to process my feelings.

Hi Graced,

So sorry to hear about your miscarriage

I have had two miscarriages both at 7 weeks but am currently pregnant for the third time and made it to 21 weeks so far. I must admit the anxiety has clouded this pregnancy because I am constantly expecting something to go wrong but just because you have had a miscarriage once does not necessarily mean that it will happen again.

I would definitely recommend counselling if that is something that is available you and take the time you need to grieve before rushing into trying again.

X

@Mummy2O @RunnerDuck2020 I was thinking of getting counselling once I conceive. Thank you,