10+4 and 4.5mm nuchal

[mikey4]

Hi there, I'm new to this so please bear with.. I don't know all the acronyms and abbreviations but having searched the internet so far can't seem to find anyone with common situation or understanding.
I'm 41yrs old, 10+6 weeks pregnant and this would have been my first successful pregnancy having suffered an MMC 7 years ago and a TFMR at 18 weeks 6 years ago.
This time around I am in a different, wonderful relationship and despite the age risks wasn't aware of any reason this shouldn't be successful. I've had a few early scans due to my anxiety and all looked as it should. However 2 days ago at 10+4 the nuchal fluid has shown as 4.5mm and the consultant was very direct in letting me know this isn't good. I had the Harmony NIPT the same day and am awaiting the results but have already resigned myself to a 'not-good' outcome. Does anyone else have any similar experience? Advice? I understand that my risk now for a DS pregnancy is very high but also that the risk of not carrying to full term is also very high. I have no other children and this was my last chance. I feel already devastated. My partner has a 6 year old and is wonderful but just can't feel the same way I do. Every positive post I have seen concerning DS infants all have older siblings and I just don't think I could cope with the long term prospects. Anyway, I know I'm getting ahead of myself but I can't bear the thought of miscarriage and/or stillbirth. Sorry.

I'm surprised he said to you that given that the NHS doesn't consider the NT measurement to be accurate before a minimum of 11+6? Did you decide to have the NIPT based on what he said? I'd be concerned he used it as a way to get you to pay for the test? Obviously the NIPT is going to be much more accurate than the combined test but the odds are still in your favour that the baby will be completely healthy x

Really? even with my age as a factor too though? I have been going to a private clinic for all scans so far who specialise in complex cases, I'm not due for my NHS scan until next Friday which in theory should be 12 weeks.

And sorry, no I was always planning on having the NIPT on that day, he just offered me a scan before my bloods were taken :(

Hello, couldn’t read and run. Normally they do the Nuchal fold test at 12 plus weeks? Have u had your nhs scan yet? How did it go? You maybe 41 but you could still have a healthy baby I know lots of woman who have conceived naturally and gone on to have healthy babies. I hope you ok try not to worry till u have all the results