5 weeks pregnant after 2 miscarriages

[alicsagg]

Hi All,

I'm 5 weeks pregnant after a miscarriage at 6 weeks in September. It was my second miscarriage – I had a missed one back in 2017 before I had my son in 2018. I'm so anxious every day, I really don't know how I'm going to get through the next 7 weeks until a scan. Can anyone share their tips on getting through it?

To make matters worse, a close friend told me today that she is also pregnant, 6.5 weeks. I'm now obsessing that her pregnancy will work out and mine will not. She has never had a loss so can't understand my feelings. So far all my signs are good, I have strong pregnancy symptoms (nausea, sore boobs, insomnia) but I did when I had my miscarriage a few months ago. It's like I've lost all confidence in my body, particularly as I've had two MC.

Not sure where to turn, I haven't told anyone else that I'm pregnant in case it doesn't work out.

Breathe and take it easy on yourself, your pregnancy has every chance of progressing perfectly normally. You’ve been through a trauma and I know it’s hard but try anything to take your mind of it. I found painting my nails good (struggle to google while letting them dry. Lots of pampering. I took up hobbies each time ( the amount of crap I have now🙄). I drew, I coloured, i researched unsolved mysteries. I even knitted a scarf. YouTube is so helpful. None of it will make it any quicker. But it may help to calm you down.

Sorry your feeling this way!
I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy in 2016, had my daughter in 2018 and now pregnant at 28 weeks.
But I don't have an answer to your anxiety because even this far on, I'm still determined something is going to go wrong.
Don't focus on your symptoms too much because like you said, you had them when you had a MC. Because symptoms don't mean anything. Even if they go away completely. It doesn't mean anything exactly.
I had zero symptoms except from sore boobs with my DD and they went away after the first few weeks!

Hey,
I had a MC in November at 5wks 5days.
Thankfully i conceived again straight away without an AF and am now 5 wks tomorrow. This week just fills me with nerves. I don't have any answers or advice for you because I'm feeling your pain but i guess we can't control how the pregnancy is going to go so we've just got to enjoy it. X

congrats @alicsagg, and sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I dont really have any words of wisdom but just a hand hold and to say that u r not alone!
Currently 5+2 after a MMC at 11 weeks in October.
i feel the exact same, its so long to wait. I dont even,dare i say it, really feel that excited as convinced everything is or has already gone wrong. i dont really have any symptoms so that is really worrying me. totally know what u mean about losing confidence in yourbody, i feel totally tricked that we got to 11 weeks but the baby hadnt grown since sometime around 6 weeks. so now given i dont have any symptoms i am imaging things arent progressing already but my body just hadnt figured it out yet, its so hard isnt it :(
i do find some of the personal stories on the miscarraige association website and tommys really useful when u find stuff written by people who have gone through the same. maybe have a look if you havent already in case anything useful? otherwise i'm just finding MN really useful to get positive stories frompeople in the same boat!
I think we have to try be positive and know that whilst a lot of people have a miscarriage the chances of having more than 1 and then 2 or more etc are less common so we have to hope for a healthy pregnancy :) keep everything crossed xx

Thank you all for the support. The 5 week stage is so hard, I'm just hoping I'll feel a bit more confident with each week that passes. TBH when I had my son, I was anxious for the entire pregnancy and couldn't relax until I held him in my arms. I was determined I was going to be so laid back second time around but that was before another MC.
I'm just so envious of friends who haven't had to go through this – I'm sad that I'll never get to actually enjoy pregnancy.
Keep in touch – would love to hear how your pregnancies progress. Let's hope and pray for healthy babes for all of us :)