Hey all,
So at the end of the month, I am having a "social distancing" baby shower. It will be hosted on google meets so that I can see a lot of people and not have to worry about the whole COVID situation. However, I am very conflicted as my MIL and her sister, my Husbands Aunt, wants to come visit and be a part of it in person. My MIL had COVID at the end of November, which stumped them from coming to visit for Christmas. My husband's Aunt and her family.. had COVID in December. My husband is confident that there is a period after getting COVID (he says about 3-6 months) where you should be pretty safe after having it.. and not catching it again. Since MIL and FIL had it..they did quarentine, for a while but then they started going out and being social again because they "wanted to live their life".. at least from what I have heard. According to them, all of their friends had it too! Last couple times we spoke to them over the phone, they were out to dinner or something etc. My husband is also confident his mom CAN do a 2 week quaretine before coming up here.. but then they have to make the drive to come up, which is about 5-6 hours, that's if traffic is not bad.
I am conflicted. Because right now me and the baby comes first. Can she quarentine? Yes. The fact that she had it and is still being social really bugs me. My husband thinks all will be okay. Then our son is due in March.. same thing for her coming to see the baby. Would it be safe?
Granted he says he supports my decision, but then he says, "Well technically by that logic you shouldn't even be going to the grocery store. And you should be more careful when going to the barn to see your horse.." Which I am ALWAYS careful and if you have horses, you know that we evented social distancing before social distancing was a thing.. horses can kick one another you know, you normally keep a safe distance anyway for safety reasons. But anyway.. and since his parents didn't come out for Christmas we also have not been out to eat in over a month because he feels if his parents can't come out then we need to be more careful ourselves.. which.. I don't feel is really right considering -we- can control our own environment to a point.
Oh and then his MIL offered to send a cake and decorations in lieu of her coming it.. its like..so I'm going to decorate for my own party and be by myself? Which made me feel sad. And who is going to eat the cake.. me, by myself? (Mind you I don't get to eat a lot of sweets because it doesn't agree with the baby. I have not had actual ice cream in 7 months.)
So this is why I'm conflicted.. husband says its safe, I don't think it is. I know I am the pregnant wife and what I say basically goes but I am upset that he is trying to tell me I shouldn't be going to the darn grocery store(which ain't going to happen)..I feel like I'm being punished for being careful. Anyone else going through this?