2nd trimester: can't plan anything, don't know what's going on

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This is basically a rant. I'm coming up to 20 weeks pregnant, which is nerve-racking enough in itself after a previous miscarriage and having never had a baby before, but due to the whole coronavirus situation, changes to mine and my partners jobs are all up in the air, along with a move in rented accomodation due to eviction (I know this is likely to be paused due to lockdown but letting agents are being so horrible I just want to get out of here now).

Bottom line is I have no idea where I'm going to be living in a couple of months (could be one of a few areas 100s of miles apart), and obviously no idea where (or if?) I'm going to be having this baby. I think getting the 20 week scan out of the way will help, but because everyone in this thread seems to have their exact hospital, birth plan, bag contents sorted from week 0, I feel like a bit of a mess. I'm embarassed to tell the midwife at my scan because I know they're going to ask me about my plans, but I just don't know. I wish I could at least count on having a healthy baby, but I can't even be sure of that. Aaaaaaaaaaarrghhhhhhh

*everyone on this board lol, sorry, typed that out in a rush!

Don't worry about the birth plan too much. My midwife told me to write one and I didn't have a clue (went online and found something in the end). When I told her I'd written it at the next appointment, she told me that there's no point as they don't go to plan. Real helpful!
I think you just need a general idea of what you would prefer. Csection/VBAC, pain relief, injection to move the placenta along or not, etc. Takes a few mins and is good for your partner to have so that he can advocate for you.
Try to keep calm with the move and go with the flow. I moved when I was due and had the baby 3 days later. It acted as a distraction to the birth itself so I didn't spend my time worrying. It'll all come together, just rely on your partner to help out more as you're busy doing the important bit.

I feel your pain. I’m 35 weeks pregnant first time mum. Two consecutive miscarriages prior to this pregnancy. Landlord trying to evict us since summer cos sold the one bedroom flat we’re in. Tried to buy somewhere, fell through November. Now trying to buy somewhere else. Unsure if we’ll have moved by due date, currently estimated to be around that time. Endless pressure from mean landlord to move despite pregnancy and pandemic.

Now at 35 weeks and babs is breech so can’t birth plan anyway as no idea what’s going to happen!

No midwife has ever asked me what my birth plan is so far!

I’ve been so stressed the last few months but now just rolling with the uncertainty. Giving birth in a lockdown and moving house potentially the same time is not how I envisioned things... 😬

@LifeBeginsNow Thank you, it is so reassuring to know that having a plan is not the be all and end all, be it pregnancy or moving house. I'll research and discuss some of the things you've suggested so I feel a bit less in the dark. What a story you have to tell your little one about how/when they were born 😂 I keep saying to my partner that he will be doing ALL THE LIFTING and he appears to see it as some kind of fitness challange

@Muriel84 It's not great, is it. I'm sorry to to hear you're experiencing so much chaos. Had an argument with a friend the other week who had come into some money and was casually discuss buy-to-let investment (something I couldn't dream of ever affording!!!?), was trying to convince her that it's not just as simple as buying somewhere and letting it until she'd made enough cash for whatever, that you are responsible for keeping a roof over someone's head. Think she thougth I was being over-dramatic, but I meant every word.

Good luck with your pregnancy and your housing situation, it sounds like you're really close to the finish line. I will try and live by your mantra of rolling with the uncertainty, it's certainly not how I envisioned things either!