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Are you pregnant ladies still sending DC to nursery??

18 replies

UncleBunclesHouse · 05/01/2021 09:44

I'm really stuck, 26 weeks and WFH full time in a pretty intense job. I was very pleased with the news on early years last night, but now me and DH are debating whether to send DC or not given I'm getting close to 28 weeks when they recommend you limit contact etc.

This would be extremely difficult to manage, we have some family help but not much, both very busy and lots of responsibility. I worry for my mental health trying to manage without the childcare, but worry about transmission if attending as that is really one of the only 'outside world' contacts for us at the moment. Rates in our area are currently low and the nursery are very on top of safety measures and being strict. Dc also really loves it and is going slightly insane :(

What is everyone else doing?

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wimbler · 05/01/2021 10:43

I am. Personally I was dreading nurseries closing. I am still having to go to work as normal and my husband WFH and cannot take time out to look after our 2 year old. She gets so much out of nursery and is at a crucial age for development so I'm really glad she's able to still attend.

boymum88 · 05/01/2021 10:54

We have decided to send him at the min, im 25 weeks with a high risk preg, so shouldn't be lifting him ect and have to limit what I do with him, he loves going and it benefits him in so many ways.
He did shield last time so we are waiting to see if he gets a letter this time. If so we will pull him out.
I did also ask nursery if they have had any cases in the whole nursery not just in his room and was told no, if they do start to get cases then we would then take him out.
I think it's a very personal choice and each family will have to weigh up the risk and benefits also will depend if the nursery have had positive cases

popcorndiva · 05/01/2021 10:56

We are sending him, think its good he keeps his routine, especially with a new sibling coming. We both cannot work from home though

Dogsandbabies · 05/01/2021 10:57

My DS 18 months caught Covid just before Christmas, was completely asymptomatic and didn't pass it to any of us. I was constantly worried I would catch it as I didn't distance at all but I didn't.

I am continuing to send him in but I am also a lot more relaxed now because I hope he has some short term immunity at least.

BeeMakesTea · 06/01/2021 10:10

I am, mainly because DH and I both WFH full time and can’t get time off to look after DS. Plus he loves nursery and has much more fun there than being stuck at home with us when we are trying to fit work around looking after him. I’m 23 weeks though so we’re going to keep an eye for the next few weeks, if the nursery starts having more cases we may reconsider, but I really hope we don’t have to!

Mumofboys17 · 06/01/2021 10:37

I’m 26 weeks tomorrow and still sending DS (he’s 3). He goes for 3 full days a week, I work all day on those days (part time - split half and half from home and office which may change at 28wks) DH works full time and is also a retained firefighter so on call in evenings.
I’ve felt the same really, it’s difficult to know what the best or right thing to do is. Like most I imagine, DS’ nursery have been amazing throughout since the first lockdown and he absolutely loves going. WFH with DS here can be an absolute nightmare on the days we have done it!
I do think it’s the best thing for them right now purely because we can’t do any of the normal activities or play dates, but it ultimately comes down to you, if you don’t feel comfortable then don’t send him xx

Thegirlhasnoname · 06/01/2021 11:15

I’m 35 weeks and my 2 year old DD happily skipped into nursery this morning. She only goes 3 days a week but I feel like, especially with the world as it is at the moment, she needs that routine of going. I know when she returned to nursery in July after the first lockdown she was like a completely different child and suffered pretty badly with separation anxiety - so much so that she only stopped getting upset at drop off (was fine during the days she was there but not at drop
Off) in October.

It’s a very personal choice and one all families will have to make. Our nursery have been fantastic throughout though and only had one period of isolation needed (a staff member had tested positive but no further spread was had either in other members of staff or in the children) so I’m confident that they will be able to keep everybody, staff included, safe. Especially given we are in a low infection area

mamababy1955555 · 06/01/2021 14:28

I'm only 14 weeks, also continuing to send DS. It honestly barely felt like a choice - I feel like we all need it!

Moo678 · 06/01/2021 14:31

18 wks and working full time as a doctor - still sending toddler to nursery and older kids to hub school. No plans to change this.

SearchingForToes · 06/01/2021 14:50

We’re keeping DD off for now - I’m 35 weeks in an area badly hit, and my mum (who will be childcare when I go to hospital) is shielding others in her household, so seemed silly to risk it! DH and I both working from home - he does v long hours but I only have a couple of weeks left, after which things should be more manageable.

MaryShelley1818 · 06/01/2021 15:32

I'm 34+5. We've chosen not to send DS back in this month. He was 3 in December. I've been really torn about it but with only 3-4wks to go it's just absolutely not worth the risk for me. I'd never forgive myself if something happened this close to baby being here. DS can go back in a few weeks and is unlikely to even remember a few extra weeks off.

InTheFamilyTree · 06/01/2021 15:39

Interesting that most replies are positive. I'm also approaching final trimester and decided to keep both DC in childcare. I reasoned that It's good for them, and if I feel well rested and mentally healthy then my immune system is more resilient.

Helenknowsbest · 06/01/2021 15:54

I'm 28 weeks pregnant and now off sick at work. However even though I'm at home I'm still sending my 18 month off old to nursery. This may change later but for now I really need this one day a week to rest and he loves it.

F1rstt1imer · 06/01/2021 15:59

I’m 37+6 and DD is off to nursery for her two days this week. She loves it and with the upset that will come with a new baby arriving soon I wanted to keep that consistency for her and also (selfishly) give myself a break as well!

ShyTown · 06/01/2021 16:07

34 weeks here and still sending DD. She really missed it when they were closed for Christmas break so we decided that it’s the best thing for her to keep going as long as they’re open.

Wherethereshope · 06/01/2021 16:35

I was trying to read about the risks earlier in pregnancy, this is what I found..

after 28 weeks we're classed as moderately vulnerable.
those with pre-existing medical conditions , after 28 weeks are pushed into extremely clinically vulnerable. This advice for this group was to keep kids off school.
after 28 weeks, your chances of catching covid remain the same, but you may be more unwell if you did get it.
there was some talk of mum's with covid having preterm babies, but they couldn't conclude if that was due to covid or other reasons (how unhelpful)

We've decided to send DS, he needs it for his development, and i cant work with him at home,but obviously we're mindful of the potential risks. I think every set up is different, and no right or wrong in it all. The main thing I think is this is no longer a short term virus, it'll be here for a long time and we'll always be more vulnerable as we won't have had the vaccine. Some of it is sitting with the potential risk and accepting this to be able to live our lives, not just for this lockdown but as the year goes on too. It's a hard one but I think only you as a family can decided what is right for you.

grandmasterstitch · 06/01/2021 16:47

No but I also have health issues which makes me CEV. I don't know how I would feel if I were just pregnant. I suspect I wouldn't send DS seeing as I'm furloughed and it's not a problem having him at home

Aprilbaby21 · 06/01/2021 16:56

Im sending DS to school until the end of next week when im 28 weeks. I have lots of pregnancy apps coming up which i cant miss.
Im WFH and its difficult have DS home so ive sent him to give us both a break.
DS is incredibly social and needs the interaction. He is only going 3 days a week at the moment.

Me and OH have some time off and will just wing it for the next month to 6 weeks.
I will need some time before baby comes so looking to review it and send DS back to school in March but it all depends on the situation with Covid and if cases have dropped.
Im not worried about DS catching it, but i worry that he could bring something home to me. But if it all gets too much and i struggle, i may have to look at sending him him back earlier.

Its a personal choice, dont be swayed by what people think/do/say.
Go with your gut

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