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Miscarriage:(

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Webbo12 · 03/01/2021 19:33

Hello guys.
New on here!
Earlier this week i had my first ever missed miscarriage.
Absolutely devestated.
I should have been 9 weeks 4 days, but instead the heart stopped beating at 8 weeks 3 days.

I have a 19 month old son.
And now feel absolutely petrified that any future pregnancies will end badly!!
Anyone else have the same anxiety!?
Can people fill me up with positivity please!!

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HungryHippo20 · 03/01/2021 19:41

Sorry for your loss, it's an awful experience.

I had two miscarriages and it was totally devastating. Am currently 30 weeks pregnant with a baby girl 🥰

Allow yourself time to grieve and then take things as they come. Don't give up hope x

Puppydogg1 · 03/01/2021 19:52

Sorry for your loss.
My first pregnancy ended in a missed miscarriage and I was devastated. We tried again and I've now had my son who is 5 months old.
Look after yourself, and allow yourself to feel however you want. Even if that changes day by day. Xx

readyforroundtwo · 03/01/2021 19:57

So sorry you are going through this.
I had a MMC at 10 weeks (picked up at 12 week scan). A year later I went on to have my DS who is now 5 and I'm pregnant again, 16 weeks.

Andthenanothercupoftea · 03/01/2021 20:01

More pregnancies end in miscarriage than you'd think and it doesn't mean anything's wrong. I miscarried last year and doing some reading around it I was shocked how common it was, but it's not something that we talk about a lot.

I ended up in a&e and unfortunately the early pregnancy unit weren't great at providing information about trying again or offering reassurance that it was just something that happened. But the Tommy's website has good resources.

Graphista · 03/01/2021 20:16

It's sadly very common to mc. Given you have another child and you don't mention any other potential medical issues then I would think chances are next pregnancy has as much chance of success as any.

I had 2 mc before dd and was dx (finally! I'd known something was wrong for years) with endo after the 2nd. Several surgeries and treatments, but I certainly went through a period of thinking/worrying I'd never be a mother.

Anyway, then was able to try again and with careful monitoring and keeping risks as much to a minimum as possible I had dd.

Wasn't an easy pregnancy or birth but she is now a big streaky lump of 19 Grin soon to be 20. Unfortunately for unrelated medical reasons I couldn't risk any more pregnancies.

I've had friends and relatives who had multiple and even late mc which was so heartbreaking for them but they did eventually have successful pregnancies and health babies.

It's an awful thing to go through and takes time until you feel ready to try again, and not everyone does, I also know people who've had multiple losses and ultimately decided they couldn't face further heartbreak and so stopped trying. Totally understandable.

Give yourself a break, it's still very early days and you'll still be feeling very raw emotionally and physically. Give yourself time to adjust, I won't say "get over" as I don't think we really do we just get better at coping as time goes on.

Thanks
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