19 weeks and can't stop worrying

[DueMay2021]

So I'm 19 weeks but I don't feel pregnant. I have no bump and I haven't felt baby move yet. I just feel a bit in limbo and my mind is working over time.

It is my first pregnancy and I was told at a private scan at 17 weeks that I have an anterior placenta so I won't feel movements as early.

I just keep having weird dreams that things aren't ok and waking up every morning feeling dread and anxiety. I only have until the 11th to wait for my 20 week scan 💙 and I know the odds of something going wrong are slim (but not impossible) I just wish I could relax a bit. My OH is so calm and relaxed I need to make my own brain think that way.

Anyway if you got this far (sorry for the long post) thank you for reading 📖

Not sure what I really expect from this maybe just a hand hold 😊

Hi Op,
My anxiety during pregnancy is awful too, so I know how you feel. I also have an anterior placenta this time around so am concerned I won't feel as much movement as before.
If you had a scan only 2 weeks ago and everything is fine the chances of something being wrong at your 20 week scan are really small.

If it makes you feel any better, my pregnancy dreams are mental at the moment too. I had a dream the other night I murdered my DH, but doesn't mean its going to come true

Have you looked at medication or CBT? I know it's not for everyone, but something like that may help. Please feel free to message me anytime. From one anxious pregnant lady to another

Hey! 😊

Congratulations on your pregnancy! It's my first pregnancy too (due at the end of the month) and honestly, it does get easier.

Up until my 12 week scan, the only people we told were our employers, our parents, my best friend and DH's best friend and his girlfriend as they were expecting too. She was honestly amazing and she's part of the reason I have stopped fretting as much! Do you have any friends or family expecting? It's good if you do, even just for support.

At 13 weeks, I had horrific constipation and genuinely thought I was miscarrying the pain was so bad! After that, until my 20 week scan, I couldn't relax. I was convinced something was wrong and I was constantly in tears worrying.

However, after the 20 week scan, I started to feel a lot less stressed and like I could actually enjoy my pregancy. I never had much of a bump and it's only these past few weeks I've 'popped'.

Definitely speak to your DH though and be openly honest about how you feel.

Wishing you all the best

@readyforroundtwo @Snackz thank you for replying. It's so strange it's like I'm having a battle with myself like I know what I'm thinking is irrational and I'm pretty sure my dreams have never come true before. I think I just need to take some time for me and relax. I'm off work tomorrow and home a lone all day so maybe a nice bath and some reading will help me relax.

I just feel like everyone around me is super excited and I feel like they expect me to be more elated don't get me wrong I'm super happy I'm just being extra cautious like I don't want to get it excited just in case. Now I'm writing it it seems a bit sad that I have such a bleak view.

I'm really hoping that after my 20 week scan I will start to relax a bit more a lot of people I've spoken to that have kids do say that's when they because less anxious.

Congratulations to you both

If your anxiety doesn't subside please speak to you midwife. I had terrible ante and postnatal anxiety which in retrospect I should have sought help for.

@Mylittleturkeysandwich thank you I am going to talk to her about it at my 25 week appointment.

I hope you're ok now 🙂

[quote DueMay2021]@Mylittleturkeysandwich thank you I am going to talk to her about it at my 25 week appointment.

I hope you're ok now 🙂[/quote]
Much better now, I'm on medication and receiving counselling but I was absolutely convinced DS would die. As ridiculous as that sounds and it was horrible.

@DueMay2021 I also have this, although this is my second pregnancy, I am so so anxious, and I worry all the time, I went for a scan at hospital at 8 weeks 6 days where luckily everything was okay, but I couldn't wait till the 20 week one so booked a private one at 12 weeks and all that was running though my head was what if somethings wrong, again all okay, then booked a 16 week well being and gender one which I had today and found out I'm having another boy 💙 and also have a anterior placenta so wouldn't feel my baby move till 20 plus weeks, which also scares me, I don't know what it is I'm just always worrying, hope your feeling better soon OP, sending hugs and a hand to hold xx

@Mylittleturkeysandwich I'm glad you're doing ok 🥰

@Fairywings123 congratulations 💙 for some reason I knew we were going to have a boy I think because we can't agree on any names and already had a girls one 😂

I'm hoping the further a long I get the more my anxiety will start fading - although I realise it won't go completely

Hi @DueMay2021

I feel similar to you even though I should know better as this is my second.

I'm 18 weeks and am DESPERATE for my 20 week scan to so I can check to see she is alive.

Despite having a gender scan on the 23rd and everything being fine.

I think if you're naturally anxious the hormones don't help.

X

@girlabouthome congratulations
I think you're right I did wake up feeling particularly emotional today which is probably hormones and didn't help

I've had a chat with my OH and am feeling slightly better ☺️

I am exactly the same.
I get myself worked up so much and have cried both times on the days of my scans because I've convinced myself something was wrong!
Everything has been perfectly fine though!
Still worrying now!

@SnooperTrooper12345 it's so difficult not to worry

Glad your scans were all good ☺️

Hi OP, I had an anterior placenta with my first and didn't feel a thing until nearly 22 weeks, I'm now pregnant with DC2, have an anterior placenta again and have been feeling them from the inside since 20 weeks, but only because I knew what the sensation was to look for from the first time around. (Without the first pregnancy I don't think I'd know how to differentiate the movements from gas/ general squirming!!) I know it's anxiety provoking but not having a prominent bump or feeling kicks with an anterior placenta are both normal for 19 weeks 😊 Hope your scan on the 11th provides you with some reassurance x

@mummabubs thank you so much. It does make me feel better hearing someone else has had the same thing. I'm sure many people have I just haven't known any.

My last baby was anterior too and I’m 20 weeks now, same again. Still no movement! But on scans baby is v. Active. It would make you worry so much! I was so worried last time too I was actually ages before I felt movement. This time I’m not as wary after experiencing no feeling of movement for ages last time and all being fine but I still have the anxiety at the back of my mind! I know exactly how you feel!!!

@Yummymummy2020 thank you and congratulations 🥳

No worries @DueMay2021! The whole thing is one big old emotional roller-coaster isn't it! We're actually due at a similar time, I'm due 13th May 😊

@mummabubs I thought getting pregnant was the tricky part how wrong was I 😂

I'm due 31 May