so anxious it's getting me down

[katie416]

don't really know what I'm asking here but I suppose it's a way for me to get it off of my chest, I'm so anxious it's unreal. I suffer with anxiety & ocd anyway but I'm feeling extra terrible I'm only 6 weeks tomorrow & I'm absolutely terrified that something is going to go wrong that it is now starting to affect everyday life because it's all I can think about. I literally found out I was pregnant a week ago so maybe it's just taking some time getting used to but feel like I'm really struggling, lots of different scenarios are running through my head. I don't think it helps that I've got to wait until I'm around 8 weeks to see a midwife, don't know if that will give me a bit more reassurance. sorry to be a moaner!! did anyone else feel the same & everything turn out to be ok? need some positivity x

Hi @katie416, is it worth speaking with your doctor? I am just over 10 weeks and recently had the midwife appointment and they did stress the importance of talking to people if anxious.
Ours was a surprise and I felt she’ll shocked the first few weeks but feel better now and I decided to let a trusted friend now so I had someone to talk too before announcing to the family. I hope you have someone you can reach out to. X

Are you having treatment for the anxiety and OCD?

@Mrslouu thank you so much for your reply. mine was a shock too & I think that might make it a bit worse because I haven't 'prepared' myself 🙈 feel really silly to be honest that I'm letting myself get this worked up about it. I think I might go try & speak to my GP next week but I haven't even been able to have a conversation with them yet, I've called twice, just the receptionists who don't think I need to see a doctor, it seems they don't really wanna know & just leaving it to the midwife which I suppose must just be how it works I guess. I'm glad you've got someone you can talk to, I have a really supportive partner who is there for me, he is very laid back so not a lot bothers him, he just keeps telling me not to worry about something that might never happen which I know is logical but easier said than done sometimes haha x

@Wolfiefan I have previously, was on meds but came off them a while ago after a good fews month of CBT which helped me manage it but just finding it hard to do that in this situation - I really struggle when things are completely out of my control

@katie416 it’s good to hear cbt was helpful and hopefully you can use some of those techniques. I’ve been listening to all kinds of mindfulness stuff as couldn’t sleep initially and I think it helps but do speak with the other half; great to hear he is supportive. Sending you a hug. X

Hi @katie416, I suffer from anxiety on and off as well so totally get where your coming from. I’m 13 weeks now and feeling a lot better but the first few weeks were particularly hard as it was all I could think about. I had a previous MMC and was looking for any sign that it was happening again.

For me it did get better as the weeks have gone on. A lot of my usual distraction techniques didn’t work though, it’s hard to think about something else when you’re body is constantly reminding you! I really went back to basics and took it day by day, tried not to think ahead and when I felt really panicky told myself there was nothing, in that moment, to suggest it wasn’t going to be ok this time. Hormones affect my anxiety as well so it can be helpful to remember there is a lot going on in your body which will be contributing to how your feeling.

I was also lucky enough to be able to speak to a councillor who I’d already had some sessions with after the MMC. It’s definitely worth trying to speak to someone if you can. Once you have your midwife appointment they will be able to speak to you about other support as well.

Good luck.

Please contact your GP again then. It may be time for some more meds. Good luck.