I have never written on Mumsnet before and started an account purely for this post, which I am writing this because I promised myself that if everything turned out ok for me I would come and share my experience to hopefully helps others in my situation.
My bf and I got pregnant after 7 months of trying. I had the usual early symptoms - insane tiredness (falling asleep at 8pm every night), sore boobs and a few days of cramps and spotting around the time of implantation.
We were obviously delighted but a few weeks later (around 4/5 weeks pregnant) my pregnancy symptoms (sore boobs and tiredness) went away. A few days after that I started bleeding daily - ranging from a bit of blood on the tissue to needing to wear a pantyliner. I called the Early Pregnancy Unit and they told me to keep an eye on it and let them know if it got worse. A few days after that I started getting cramps. At this point it was the weekend and although desperate to go to hospital we didn't want to go to A&E because of covid. So we waited until the Monday morning and drove to the EPU. At this point I was 6 weeks pregnant. They did a scan and told me they could see a yolk and sac but it was too early to say if it was a viable pregnancy (no heartbeat detected). I was told to come back in two weeks. The sonographer told me that there was 'an area of blood' next to the sac which could account for the bleeding and that the cramps could be because the baby came from an egg on the right ovary (I have never heard of this and google didn't have much to say about it but ok). I asked her if this was normal and she said 'not normal, but common'. I was told nothing else and had an agonising fortnight waiting for the next scan.
At the next scan (8 weeks) there was a heartbeat and since then everything has been ok (touch wood). I am now 18 weeks.
The sonographer at the 6 week scan didn't tell me that what I had was a subchrionic haematoma. I found this out myself on google and it was confirmed at my next (8 week) scan. Knowing this made me feel a bit better as it did seem like an answer for the blood and something that wouldn't necessarily affect the baby. By the 8 weeks scan the area of blood had gone right down and by the dating scan (13 weeks for me) it had disappeared completely.
The bleeding was daily and would end up lasting around 4 weeks. The cramps lasted about 1-2 weeks. The sore boobs never came back (yay!) but the tiredness (and insomnia!) did. I started getting nausea around 7 weeks, which lasted until around week 11/12 but it was very mild. At the time I was just happy to have some pregnancy symptoms.
Anyway the reason I'm writing this now is because in that three week window when we feared the worst I ended up going down a google wormhole which convinced me I was having a miscarriage. Bleeding and cramps together seemed a really bad sign and add to that my pregnancy symptoms seemingly disappearing overnight. But I wanted to share that it turned out ok! I don't want to come on here to give anyone going through similar false hope but I do want to be one voice that says that it may not mean the worst as I did not hear much of that voice myself.
For anyone that finds themselves in a similar situation I'm afraid I don't really have any advice to give other than please please try not to google too much (although if you're reading this then you are probably already in that wormhole). There is really nothing you can do until you get that reassuring scan with a heartbeat which won't probably come til around 7 weeks. Obviously keep in touch with your Early Pregnancy Unit and in the meantime just try to keep as busy as you can so you're not giving yourself space to think the worst.