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Narcassistic parent

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carljone · 01/01/2021 17:59

I am 28 weeks pregnant and while my baby's dad and I have not been together since finding out about the baby, after switching and changing his mind he decided to stand by us. He has been very manipulating towards me since meeting a year ago and would never commit but would never go away when I asked him to leave me alone.
A few weeks before Christmas another woman contacted me who he has been seeing baby's dad wanting to know why we ended as she felt she was going crazy. We spoke in great detail and the way he has treated her has really scared me. He has been manipulating and controlling her in a very short period of time.
Deep down I knew something wasn't right with him as he always played on me and threatened me with suicide etc. I have been in a relationship with a narcassist previously and suffered from trauma bond, needing counselling and suffered with PTSD.
I confronted baby's dad which he of course denied his behaviour and asked him to leave me be until baby is here in March. I have also spoken to women's aid who have given me advice. He said he didn't want to be involved if I was going to dictate him but has messaged since saying tell my baby I love her. I have blocked him from contacting me for my own mental health and contacted his mum to say I would still like her involved as I don't know what he has told her. She has ignored me.
Woman's aid suggested supervised visits for dad but I can't help and feel guilty. I also don't want him having control over my daughter when she is older and know it's my fault for allowing it.

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TheFoz · 01/01/2021 19:10

Unfortunately he will be allowed access to the child. But don’t stress about that yet, it will be minimal with a small baby. For now you have done the right thing in blocking him, you need to mind your health, mental and physical.

Nia18 · 01/01/2021 21:30

In my experience men like this make a big show of being a dad at the beginning, then when the novelty wears off for them and he stops getting attention for it they move on - which would actually be a good thing for both you and your baby by the sound of it.

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