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No heartbeat at private scan

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happymum24 · 30/12/2020 21:49

I’m currently 11 weeks pregnant and I started very light brown spotting on Christmas Day. I’ve had 3 previous mc and one gorgeous DD. Given my past experience, I was panicked so after 3 days of spotting I was referred to EPAU, who wouldn’t see me until 7th jan. DH and I decided to go for a private scan on Monday night. After an abdominal scan was told I’m measuring 9 weeks and no heartbeat. Told I needed an internal scan to confirm. I understand that I’m all likelihood that we have lost this baby, but there’s still doubt. My BMI is 31, and I’m v bloated atm-could this have obscured the scan? Has anyone had an inaccurate private abdominal? I don’t have pain and the lightest brown spotting.

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LittleTiger007 · 30/12/2020 22:04

I’m sorry you are going through this. I had a private scan at 14 weeks and they said there was no baby there at all! I have a retroverted and bicornuate uterus and a high bmi. She clearly didn’t know what to look for. It was hideous and got us worried thinking the pregnancy had ended. I’m 20 weeks now and all is fine.
Please push for an nhs scan as some private places are unreliable with poorly trained sonographers. Try not to worry too much until you’ve seen someone from nhs.

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happymum24 · 30/12/2020 22:06

Wow! I’m so sorry you went through that. The worry and devastation is horrific. So glad you’re doing well! Congratulations x

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Mother2princess · 30/12/2020 22:13

I had a loss in July a blighted ovum
In your case id wait for epau to follow up I know how stressful it is
I did go on to fall pregnant weeks after my loss im now 21 weeks pregnant with my son

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happymum24 · 30/12/2020 22:20

We’ve always been seen within 24hrs at epau pre covid. I’ve been told just to attend my dating scan

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peonyrose87 · 30/12/2020 22:39

I'm so sorry. I had a private scan at 11 weeks and found the same, baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks and no heartbeat. I'd had no miscarriage symptoms and we'd went to the scan expecting to see a baby (our nhs scan wasn't going to be until 13 weeks and we were impatient!) big hugs and hopefully you get seen at the EPU quickly

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happymum24 · 30/12/2020 22:53

So sorry for your loss. I’m sure I’m clutching at straws but I have this niggling doubt

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ScottishStardust · 30/12/2020 23:16

Have you contacted the EPU following the outcome of your private scan? Wondering if this would push you up the list to be seen before the 7th?

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happymum24 · 30/12/2020 23:24

I told them yesterday and it made no difference Sad

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ScottishStardust · 30/12/2020 23:25

That's such a nightmare!! So sorry to hear this and you have to wait 🙁

MumToBeMaz · 30/12/2020 23:56

I'm sorry you're going through this. It is an awful feeling to have.
When this happened to me the person doing the private scan told me I was having a miscarriage and when I called the EPU to confirm they said they have to wait at least 7-10 days because they need to compare the scans a week apart to check for growth.

They, unfortunately, wouldn't be able to do anything to help if you go in any earlier.

Thinking of you.

Meomeomeo · 31/12/2020 07:18

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Could you try another EPU? I believe private scan places up until 10 weeks would do internal scans normally so why didn’t they do that for you? Do try another EPU, one of them should see you. Fingers crossed

strawberrypip · 31/12/2020 11:28

Ah OP my heart just lurched reading that.

Happened to me 2 years ago. Had ongoing brown spotting, went to private scan, was meant to be nearly 10 weeks. Was only measuring 7+5 and no heartbeat. Was devastating as had seen the heartbeat twice before at other scans.

I, however, didn't have a niggling doubt like yourself. I knew it was right, and EPU just confirmed it for me. If you are not convinced then just try and hang in there until your dating scan. Wishing you all the luck in the world!

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happymum24 · 31/12/2020 12:29

So you didn’t loose the baby?

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happymum24 · 31/12/2020 12:30

The sonographer said they didn’t internal scans

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12345ct · 31/12/2020 12:36

I've been through this twice before and both times the sonographer was right. Sorry xx

welshladywhois40 · 31/12/2020 14:11

I am so sorry that you are going through this. It is so wrong to make you wait till the 7th knowing what you now know.

I had a private scan at 9 weeks without a heartbeat and it was confirmed as a mmc. The scan was private and the advice from the clinic was for the size the baby there should be a heartbeat and they did do an internal to check.

I am so sorry that you are going through this.

Notabs · 31/12/2020 15:28

Hi I have just had a private scan and told there is no heartbeat at 8 + 5
I’m devastated and can’t stop crying 😢 and they also didn’t do an internal. Due to have an NHS scan next week, but would need to take time off work. Is it worth going or is it normally accurate after 7 weeks?

strawberrypip · 31/12/2020 17:21

@Notabs I'm sorry Flowers

its horrible, it really is. sadly, in my case and others on this thread it has been accurate. I didnt need an internal to confirm, they could see at both private and NHS abdominal scan :(

I would still go to your nhs one though. sending love.

Moo678 · 31/12/2020 17:38

OP and @Notabs sorry this has happened to you both.

I’ve been in a similar position. Scanned at 8 wks - baby was measuring 6 wks with no heartbeat. No internal. In my case EPU wouldn’t accept the private scan and wanted to do their own scan - they scanned me next day (this was during covid). They saw a flicker of a heartbeat but it was very slow. They then brought me back two weeks later to confirm no progression although they warned me that there really wasn’t any hope. I started bleeding the morning of the confirmation scan.

@notabs I think you need to go to the NHS scan as they will be the ones managing you as things move forward and they will need their own information.

@happymum24 My EPU don’t work weekends or bank holidays but I think would have tried to see me ASAP if I’d been in your position (I’ve had 7 miscarriages and they generally scan me quickly). I guess it’s just very unlucky timing that this has happened at this time of year.

Sending you both big hugs Flowers

Notabs · 31/12/2020 18:21

🤗 Thanks for the replies ladies, sorry for hijacking this post. Never posted on here before but didn’t have anyone else to turn to as I was planning to tell people today after the scan 😢
OP please let us know how it works out for you! I will try go to the NHS scan too, just not sure what I will tell my work.

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happymum24 · 31/12/2020 22:14

Thanks for all the support. Have started bleeding properly now so I think it’s all starting. Just so so sad but thankful we have our DD.
Wishing you all the best Notabs

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SantaMonicaPier · 31/12/2020 23:24

I'm so sorry to hear that :(

calimommy · 01/01/2021 07:48

@happymum24 I'm terribly sorry for your loss. My last MC was like yours, went for a scan at 8 weeks and baby measured 9 weeks but no heartbeat. By then they are too big not to have a heartbeat. I was devastated as I'm sure you are. Best wishes to you. Xxx

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happymum24 · 12/01/2021 22:34

Thanks for all the posts. I had the surgical procedure yesterday , as I still hadn’t miscarried. All went well and I’m so glad we chose that option. Just left now not knowing if we can face trying again

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user1471462428 · 12/01/2021 22:40

I’m so sorry for your loss. Maybe take some time to mourn your baby before deciding. It’s still early days. X

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