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Has anyone had to deal with a jeaolus sister/brother?

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bluebell82 · 25/10/2007 10:14

I doubt this is the right section but I need to vent! My younger sister is intent on ruining every family get tohether, relationships with my side of the family are strained (long story)- we had a blazing row yesterday when she told me that I did not deserve to be happy and that she is always in my shadow (I am the eldest). She did this with my wedding day and refused to attend up until the morning of the actual day which was heart breaking, almost like she wanted to be centre of attention- the old' whoah is me card' and again now the next big thing in my life she is kicking up a fuss. It started with random ailments etc during the past few months, so going to the doctor every week, if I had a bad back she would have a bad back the next week and so on.. I have been worrying about the financial constraints of mat leave, she has now told my mom she is in debt, and now she has told me that her boyf has attacked her but then in the next breath he didn't! I have put up with it for years and not reacted pussy footing round her all the time. There is a lot of history that I don't want to go into but I would really appreciate some advise on how to deal with it now I have a LO on the way, I find her behaviour a little strange and irrational. A to top it off my dh has the most perfect family in the world so I feel guilty he is being subjected to such childish behaviour and family turmoil!

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bluebell82 · 25/10/2007 10:15

By the way this is my first baby, you has been wanted for 2 long years.. apologies for the crap title by the way

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colditz · 25/10/2007 10:17

Read toddler taming, and apply the principles!

GoodGollyMissMolly · 25/10/2007 10:21

Bluebell, sorry to hear your sister is behaving this way towards you. It's the last thing you need when you are expecting, congratulations on your pg BTW.
I'm sorry but I reall dont have any experience so I dont know how much I can help. It does sound to me as if she is jelous (SP?) of you, and wants all the family attention. I am at the way she acted on your wedding day, how awful for you.

Do your parents see what she is doing, if so maybe you could have a quite word with your parents to see if they can say something to her.
Other than that maybe put a bit of distance between you both. If she moans about all her 'ailments' to you, change the subjector tell her you have enough on your mind/plate at the minute with being pg.

Hope it gets better for you

bluebell82 · 25/10/2007 10:27

Thanks Colditz made me smile!
Goodgollymissmolly- it difficult as relationships with my mother have been so strained since my father died 2 years ago (they were divorced) and she is giving the situation a wide bearth because she has made the mistake of taking side before.. it is such an ongoing problem I just need to do something as I don't want to cut her out of my life at such a special time but the LO has to come first now.. I am so stressed about it I haven't slept.. the wedding was lovely to be honest I blocked what she did but looking back it makes me angry that she wanted to cause upset- arrrrrhh! ... thanks for your advice x

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GoodGollyMissMolly · 25/10/2007 10:38

Family relationships can be so hard, can't they, I really do sympathise with you bluebell.

I know it's hard to do but getting stressed is the worst thing you can do for you and LO, it just personifies how upset/angry you are at the moment.

I understand that you dont want to push her away totaly, but maybe a bit of space will do her good. (it would deffo do you good) She may realise that she is being out of order. This is the time in your life that your family should be supportive to you, not the other way round.

Or if she starts on about her 'ailments', list every little pregnancy niggle you get, ha ha, it should at least make her be quite for a bit

bluebell82 · 25/10/2007 17:34

Think I am going to keep my distance for a while.. the problem with telling her any of my pregnancy niggles is that she turns round and has them the following week! I know it is petty but I have had just had enough and to top things off my mother is now getting involved- do they no realise that pregnancy stops you thinking rationally and results you to tears very easily.. you can't pick your family

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GoodGollyMissMolly · 26/10/2007 08:09

Awww bluebell, it must be so awkward for you. It's not what you need right now is it.

I hope that all get better for you soon, take care

xxxx

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