TTC after chemical pregnancy

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Hi ladies,

I had a chemical pregnancy last month (trying for my first baby) but tried again this month. I'm CD 38 and period is 3 days late, is this normal? I'm driving myself crazy testing my HCG levels each morning but they are negative so far. The only change in symptoms I've had is ulcers, I don't think it's stress as I'm on annual leave at the moment.

Any advice welcomed! I'm a newbie to this and feel a bit naive, there's so much more to the pregnancy journey than I had anticipated.

In my experience totally normal. I had a very early loss at 5 weeks with my first pregnancy and it took a good few months for my body to get back to the way it had been. We conceived our DD cycle 6 after the miscarriage.

We've since had two more losses trying for number 2... I was the same, just assumed it would be easy. It's a complicated thing and lots has to fall in to place.

I'd focus on getting as healthy as possible, not massive changes, just eating well, drinking lots of water and doing a little bit of exercise every day.

Be kind to yourself, I found even an early loss utterly devastating for a long time.

Thank you so much @glowingtwig, I really appreciate your advice. I definitely need to relax as it will take time. My in laws have added a bit of pressure in asking my husband if/when we will be trying to have children.. I really hate when people ask as it's quite personal and adds so much pressure. Trying to ignore it!

Thank you again xx

Totally agree- you don't need that pressure. A light laugh and a 'wouldn't that be lovely!' works. Alternatively looking them in the eye and saying 'I was pregnant, now I'm not' tends to quell any future nosing.

I find the waiting and hoping really difficult and a bit of advice a friend gave to me is that even the most fertile couple in the world don't get pregnant every month. Try to see your journey in batches of 3 months at a time... like 'not pregnant this three months, let's try next three months' seems to take the pressure off a bit.

@glowingtwig Thank you, will definitely prepare that response for next time 😉 I'm now 5 days late for my period, but HCG tests have all been negative. I had a sharp lightning crotch pain this morning and nausea but given that my tests are negative, should I just wait until my next potential ovulation date to try to conceive again? It's hard to know what's happening after the chemical pregnancy 🙄