38+ / 40+ average months to pregnancy success stories

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Hello all,

I am 39 years old and have been ttc for a few months now. We got pregnant at our first try in September of this year but miscarried at 6 weeks.
I would have loved to have kids early but acted responsibly in the first marriage that ended in a divorce and it took a long time for me to meet my current husband and for him to feel settled enough to start ttc (he has had a prior divorce as well)
Now that we are here, every doctor I meet makes me depressed, every article I read is depressing and negative about my age. It all fills me with regrets and sadness that I couldn't manage this sooner.
I've never felt ovulation ever in my life and now after miscarriage I feel everything- the ovulation, conception/changes that come after that. It all gives me false hopes and massive disappointments each month. I feel sad and depressed and feel lost.

It would be wonderful to know how many of you had success, at what age, and after how many months of trying.

Thank you so much

Hi althoug I'm a little bit younger e im 36 and pregnant - I can tell you every appointment I've been to at the hospital I've never felt old and most of the women there seem to be in their late 30s or early 40s. I regularly overhear people giving their date of birth and its in the 70s. I guess this could be a London thing as everyone tends to settle down later, but it shows that it really is very common and I know its must be so hard but try and not worry as its really been no time at all and your body is resetting itself. Easier to say than do I fully appreciate!
Also 2 of my friends just got pregnant age 40 via sperms doner, both 1st time. Take care :-)

I got pregnant at 39 and gave birth to a beautiful, healthy, lovely baby girl at 40. I conceived on my 2nd cycle of trying and was one of the youngest in my NCT group for what its worth.

So don't give up hope. The fertility stats are based on French records from the 16th century - we are so much healthier, live longer and better lives, so don't get stressed about it. Also, doctors see the cases that need help, if that makes sense. Easy conceptions and normal pregnancies by definition go unremarked by the medical profession.

Wishing you the very best and stay positive!

@Dorset555 thank you so much, makes me feel better. Sometimes feel like these message boards are the best way to get support!

@ladybranstonpickle thank you! I have truely never understood these stats, boards seem to show people getting pregnant after 40 but the official stats out there are so low! Makes sense. Glad to hear that you got pregnant around my own age. Gives me hope. Thank you

It took me 18 months to get pregnant. I'm 39 and I had my little boy in September. Don't give up!

Thank you @LatteLover12 !!

5 months at 39. Plenty of people older than me in my NCT group

Thank you @Turtleturtle81 !!

I have one tube and a history of miscarriages.

Successful baby came in our second month of trying age 39.

Just had a chemical in our first month of trying as soon as period returned after baby (8 months old) and stupidly hopefully for this month, despite the odds of being 40, uni-tubed, fat and breastfeeding.

@LividLover that gives me so much hope! Thank you so much for sharing your story, really appreciate it. Wish you the very best!!