Shock pregnancy

[Mybabysmylife1]

Hello everyone. Just a quick one here. Just found out I'm pregnant.. having a really hard time understanding of this is the right time for me and DH we have 3 children age 2/3/8 youngest is quite the handful. I don't like the thought of abortion but I'm really confused in what I want. We just got our two eldest in dance classes , youngest is starting nursery a lot of changes are happening cone next year. I'm scared .. very scared I don't know what to do who you turn too I'm stuck in my own head :(

I also don't want my children feeling pushed out especially my youngest with how he is at the moment with his temper etc. He's a lot to handle and I'm afraid it may go the other way where he rebels from jealousy 😭

I would say that although it might not be ideal, now that you’re pregnant you shouldn’t just go for it. But then I couldn’t terminate a pregnancy when I was in a stable relationship. You might feel differently.

@MeanMrMustardSeed I feel the same about a termination I just don't know why I feel so confused 😭

When you started trying for your 3rd what was the plan OP? Was it going to be your last baby?

You have two young toddlers as well to consider. As well as your eldest.

I think Christmas and this weekend gives you some space to let it sink in and have a think about it. I sort of can imagine how you feel as I have 4, all under 10, and would feel horrified if I found out I was pregnant. I would get used to it though and just go for it!

I was preparing for professional exams, we were totally skint with a 4yo DD and 1 yo DS who was going through an awful stage (planking/ tantrumming/ we had to leave everywhere in disarray).

I found out I was pregnant. I couldn’t get my head around it. Then we found out it was twins.

Somehow, we survived it. The twins are 5 now and (pandemic aside) we are in a wonderful place and I adore my family of 6.

I’m not saying that everything will magically fall into place or that you should continue with an unwanted pregnancy but tough as it was, for us, it has been indescribably worth it. We found a way (and my twins proudly tell people they passed the second part of the MRCGP as I was 20 weeks pregnant with them during the OSCE bit).

They were challenging little babies but they are now utterly adorable and complete our family.

I hope you work out what is best for you and find your peace with it .

Hi everyone! Thank you all for your input
You all seem to have helped me. @Littleyell only the 2&3 year old are my children. Eldest is step child but still class as mine. One thing that makes me feel sick is telling my mum and I don't know why. I'm petrified. I'm 24 aswell forgot to mention in the first post. I hate feeling so confused I said after my second I wouldn't have no more with how much of a hand full he is and now getting into nursery I have time to focus a little on my self and be able to look after myself and get my house done when kids are not here. Then on the other hand I think it would be a lot easier if I wanted a baby to be now as my youngest starts nursery and both other two will be in full time school my 3 year old turns 4 and starts September. I just feel Very selfish wanting "time to myself" but then can't understand what I want it's not something to be holding on a string I feel terrible 😭

Hi there I had ttc naturally for 5 years and didn't want to go down other routes so I got comfortable with the idea of not having children and actually set my life up around the freedom that gives. Travel, career etc. Then give years after giving up (ten from the start of ttc) I had a test for a urine infection and found out I am pregnant at 40 years old (currently 18 w 2d). My partner is in his mid fifties and it came as a complete shock we thought about whether we had it in us at our age with his health issues and considered giving the baby up for adoption. I'm very happy to say we 've decided to go for it and keep our child. It feels like a sign after years of believing it was impossible. My circumstances are very different from the OP I just wanted to share my story, partly in case anyone who s struggling and has give up hope of conceiving comes across it. I 've only posted once before and have no idea what the abbreviations you guys use are 😁 sorry about that. X

@Isamc83 don't be sorry that's wonderful ! I have 2 and a step child which I fully class as my child. I'm struggling with my emotions I'm struggling on what's the best option I just don't know. X

Thanks I know my situation is very different from yours and I'm absolutely not say I g you should make the same choice as me. The best advice I can offer is. Don't let anyone sway you in your descision once you've made it. Choosing to either keep or terminate a child to appease someone else emotionally can cause untold problems. Listen to advice but it's ultimately up to you honey. We 're so lucky in this country that we have the right to choose what's best for us and our families . Have you spoken to a counsellor or a family planning clinic? They will help you explore your options without judgement. Good luck I'm sure everything will be ok whatever you decide and remember it's YOUR decision . Xxxxx

I completely understand where you are coming from. I'm 10 weeks pregnant with baby number four at 44. The other 3 are 22,15 and 11. I alternate between excitement and sheer confusion and doubt about having a fourth. I had planned that my youngest would be at least 16 by the time I turned 50 and here I am pregnant again. Today is one of my low mood days where I'm questioning my sanity and wondering how I'll even break the news to the children.

@feistymumma I feel for you hun because I'm having a hard time partner respects any decision but
I find my self snapping a lot at my kids now due to them constantly fighting I don't feel like another child is going to be ok with all the stress of the ones I already have but then I feel awful throwing a life around like it's nothing just because my kids are hard to handle xx

I feel awful throwing a life around like it's nothing just because my kids are hard to handle **

You have to do what’s best for your family as a whole and there’s absolutely no shame in that. Because a baby is for life.

@Littleyell yes I completely understand that you got your opinion I needed that x