Pregnant in Tier 4? Join me in an anxiety thread

[RMarieClaire]

Couldn't see a support thread like this and wondered if others would find it helpful? I'd love to join with other mums-to-be in the same situation. I'm 21 weeks pregnant, and just got put in Tier 4. I'm lucky that this is my second, so not quite as stressful as my first, but I'm still struggling with the current situation, which has come as a bit of a shock. This time last week we were in Tier 2!

I'm nervous about getting Covid, obviously, but manageably so. More than anything, I'm sad that my 18month old barely knows her grandparents who live a few hours' drive away, and I don't know what we'll do with her when I go into labour if homebirths aren't allowed, like they weren't last peak. Just hate not being able to plan!

On the plus side, no arguments around Brexit over the holidays :) Got to see the sunny side!

Hey, I'm also 21 weeks and just gone into tier 4. I feel a strange sense of numbness at the whole situation, I think maybe it's a little bit of disbelief that we are living through this. I feel like I'm in a dream most the time!

I find that the sitting around doing nothing is making me ache so much worse than normal, or maybe that's just a 21 week thing?? Trying to go for an hour walk a say, but it's pretty miserable weather!

That's difficult to have a LO who hasn't spent much time with grandparents. How are they coping with the lockdown?

I can definitely join in here! I've been coping relatively well with covid anxiety so far but now every other country is banning travel and cases are increasing faster than ever before the fear has hit me! I'm having a very stressful pregnancy in any case with twins one of which has selective intrauterine growth restriction. My fears are mainly that hospitals will be overwhelmed which might affect the care we get if something bad happens, whether that's getting covid or something else (I'm at high risk of early labour for example and I'm currently only 25 weeks). Plus now I'm worried about food supplies running out! We decided not to join the rush to the supermarkets this morning but we will need to go in the next couple of days and I'm scared there will be nothing left!

@RMarieClaire unfortunately I think arguments about brexit are just as likely over Zoom or Skype! That must be really hard with your little girl not being able to see her grandparents.

@eternalflame2020 I'm getting so many aches and pains and normally I spend ages trying to work out if its just muscle pain ... usually it is! I agree its not bery appealing for a walk today.

Hi - ugh it's all so rubbish isn't it. I am 31+3 now so due date will come around quite quickly now, I'm really worried that we'll be in full on lockdown when I give birth and our parents won't be able to meet their grandchild etc when he or she comes along. I know there's not much we can do and worrying won't help the situation, but it's hard!

I'm 38 weeks and now in tier 4! My whole
Pregnancy has been during lockdown and I've found if very isolating being stuck at home!

My hospital is allowing partners throughout labour luckily (altho DP hasn't been allowed to any scans/appts) so not too worried about that, but I'm disappointed that my family won't be allowed round to meet him for a while 😞. First grandchild as well!

Just as a reminder you can meet outside with one other person and then under 5’s don’t count.

And you can form a bubble with an under 1.

I'm 35+1 and finding it scary now being in Tier 4. I've always been scared of Covid, but it's ramped up this week. I'm also scared of the hospital. People say they are the safest places to be, but that's just hyperbole as I've seen social distancing not being adhered to, plus even staff wearing masks under their noses/ people walking around the hospital with masks off etc. And I'm at a leading London maternity hospital! I feel like it's rather unfashionable - and borderline flame-worthy - to admit you're worried about Covid. But the whole thing IS scary to me.

Totally agree it's isolating.

I'm with you on the 'no arguments about Brexit' point, though!!! Haha, yes, that's true.

@eternalflame2020 thankfully no chance of sitting down much with a toddler, but I know what you mean! I would really recommend pregnancy yoga - not the same remotely but I found some great classes on youtube.

@RosettaR I know what you mean about food stuff. We've got a few bits and I'm hoping my small coop will stay stocked, then we'll be ordering a lot of take out!

@Darcy86 Hadn't even thought about that lockdown wise. I really hope the Oxford vaccine is signed off in the next two weeks, so we can hope for a better spring

@H8624

I'm 38 weeks and now in tier 4! My whole Pregnancy has been during lockdown and I've found if very isolating being stuck at home!

My hospital is allowing partners throughout labour luckily (altho DP hasn't been allowed to any scans/appts) so not too worried about that, but I'm disappointed that my family won't be allowed round to meet him for a while 😞. First grandchild as well!

I'm sorry this must have been so hard, especially with your first baby.

@Mimiwish

I'm 35+1 and finding it scary now being in Tier 4. I've always been scared of Covid, but it's ramped up this week. I'm also scared of the hospital. People say they are the safest places to be, but that's just hyperbole as I've seen social distancing not being adhered to, plus even staff wearing masks under their noses/ people walking around the hospital with masks off etc. And I'm at a leading London maternity hospital! I feel like it's rather unfashionable - and borderline flame-worthy - to admit you're worried about Covid. But the whole thing IS scary to me.

Totally agree it's isolating.

I'm with you on the 'no arguments about Brexit' point, though!!! Haha, yes, that's true.

I'm nervous too. I'm not the kind of person who ever gets ill, but I just feel like it would tip me over the edge, plus you can't do a lot of the things that would help - lie on your front, take lots of Paracetamol, etc, as a pregnant woman. Hopefully none of us will face this! Just need to take precautions where we can.

Tier 4, 37 weeks, and had Covid 5 weeks ago! All ok now thankfully apart from poor taste and smell. Baby is fine and moving well. I'm just worried maternity rules may change now.

Tier 4 but only 9 weeks. I really hope things pick up as I want to be able to see people and show off bump (when it arrives). My one hope at the moment is I have a summer due date so fingers crossed things like baby showers can go ahead outside.

@Covidwoes oh god - hope you're ok! Glad the baby is. Dare I ask how it was? Hard enough breathing fully with a baby pressing on your lungs as it is!

@RMarieClaire it wasn't pleasant, but I didn't need any medical attention. For me the worst part was the exhaustion and body aches. My DH then got it, so we were ill at the same time and had our 2 year old to look after (who had a temp for a day but bizarrely tested negative!).

Yup, that's me too!

I am 32 weeks now. To be honest, I felt a bit relieved when Christmas bubbles were cancelled as I didn't have to tread the minefield of grandparents who were not complying with restrictions any more, despite feeling awful about not having a Christmas with them and them not seeing DD.

Planning to only see people only outside, regardless of Covid rules, from Christmas until due date now.

My DD is still at pre school, though that might be suspended in January, so I shall try to order all my last minute baby things and sort as much as possible over Christmas in case I need to work and do childcare afterwards.

Am having a section, so my thinking is that whilst my DH is off I won't be letting GPs do proper visits other than brief and ideally outdoors anyway. I don't particularly want to get Covid post surgery any more than I want it now, tbh. After that, hopefully we will be through the worst of the restrictions - 🤞