Scan at 10+6 but result inconclusive

[Lostwordsblessing]

Had our first private scan yesterday before Christmas so we’d have something to show our families but didn’t get the result we’d hoped for.
They couldn’t find a heartbeat and said baby was measuring at 5.86mm and 6+1 week which is quite the difference based on what we’d been told by the NHS. I was obviously in bits thinking the worst but we just have to wait until our 12 week scan on 4th Jan to know more. It feels so painful and difficult not knowing.
I’ve had no signs of loss, no bleeding or spotting, no pains or nausea.
My symptoms have been very mild apart from cramping and very sore boobs, but those symptoms sort of faded about a week and a half ago. I feel more energised, which is in line with entering a second trimester, but our scan yesterday has us worried beyond measure.

Has anyone shown earlier in a scan? Can scans be wrong? I don’t feel bad, haven’t had any bad symptoms. I feel like I would know.

Looking for hope and info but both being prepared for a sad outcome.

Hi @Lostwordsblessing. I am in exactly the same situation as you at the moment. A couple of weeks ago I thought I was around 9 weeks pregnant, had an early scan due to a UTI and they said I was measuring much smaller...

Went back for a scan today thinking I'd get a decision one way or the other, only to be told they think they saw a heartbeat but aren't sure and I have to wait another 2 weeks till the 5th January, we are gutted.

Sending you lots of good vibes x

Sorry you are going through this, but I'm a bit confused. You said that the private scan was different to what the NHS told you. Did you already have an NHS scan, prior to the private one??? If so, what did it show and were the dates correct then? DId they just do blood tests for HCG?

Hi all, managed to speak to my EPU yesterday who agreed it most likely sounded like a missed miscarriage, and that was also recommended by our local unit in NE too. Booked to have a diagnosis scan next Tuesday to confirm and discuss options.

The fact is I just don’t feel pregnant any more. My symptoms have gone. I’ve accepted it and we’re dealing with it with strength and gratitude for eachother. It just wasn’t to be.

@Wildswimmer2020 I hope your next scan shows a strong heartbeat and your dates were just a little bit out. All my hopes for you and for any others going through something similar.

Whatever the outcome, it isn’t the end. Just the beginning of a different path. X

Really sorry to hear that @Lostwordsblessing. We had a missed miscarriage back in August and it was heartbreaking but we did manage to get through it and I found talking to my close friends and family really helped.

I'm not feeling very confident about our scan having looked at the CRL size v gestation but just got to try keep positive. Whatever happens it'll be okay and like you said just the beginning of a different path. X

@Lostwordsblessing
Until you know for sure at your next scan don't lose all hope.
But you are right preparing yourself.
You sound like a strong woman. Don't hesitate to talk about what is happening and take your time to process things. Ask for support if you need.
As you say it's not the end just a different path. Whatever happens. Wishing you all the best x

If the dates had been out by just a couple of weeks I would definitely be putting some weight in hope, but 4 and 1/2 weeks difference is quite vast, and talking to the nurses yesterday was reassuring even though it was bad news because they were just being honest with me. Obviously the words never say never are there and if we have the scan next week and see a heartbreak it will be a beautiful surprise, but a surprise it will definitely be!

I’m so grateful for a partner who has been a rock even though I know he’s upset too, but even he said to me, “this isn’t something I can sympathise with, knowing you’re going through something quite different to me, because it’s you, your body.” But I don’t feel alone at all. We’ve been reminding each other to vocalise how we’re feeling, checking in all the time, and talking to family and also this thread has been a huge help. Thank you everyone. X

*heartbeat

Hi all- just an update. It was a missed miscarriage. Started passing the pregnancy on Christmas Eve of all days. The irony of losing the baby on the day we were going to announce to our family was not lost on us.
Pain was unbelievable, cresting later that evening and has softened off a bit but I’ve been bleeding heavily since with on and off pain, which comes on like contractions.
Feeling tired and sad. I have a scan tomorrow to check I’m okay.

Just want to thank you for the support and honesty. I feel so sad and heartbroken. It keeps escaping in little moments. Generally though, and oddly, we’ve had a lovely Christmas, but the reality of this shitty thing that’s happening to me, to us, is jarring.

Even though I know we can try again, somehow the prospect now just fills me with dread and makes me want to curl up and cry. I know this will probably pass once the miscarriage is over and I’m feeling more myself, but for now, I’m completely blindsided.

Sending love and peace and hoping everyone had a good Christmas, pandemic besides. Thank you again. X

I'm so, sorry for your loss

I’m so sorry it wasn’t a positive outcome. All the best for the future xx

I'm so sorry for your loss @Lostwordsblessing

So sorry x

I am so so sorry @Lostwordsblessing. It's incredibly hard. Ive been exactly where you are on now and I had a missed miscarriage. Be gentle and kind to yourself.

So sorry @Lostwordsblessing
I know how difficult this is. I MC on xmas eve last year.
Spent it in hospital hoping it was just one of those bleeds. But no.
It made us incredibly sad. We were so naive then.
Not going to lie we are still a little traumatised. We had prepared xmas cards mentioning the baby and when it was opened it was awkward and heartbreaking at the same time.
We did our best to enjoy the company of family but the spirit wasn't there. I was strong until i broke down for NYE and as you say curled up and cried for hours.
It took a few weeks to get passed this feeling.
But I became pregnant in July and this year we are 26w pregnant and healthy and i can tell you how much we are grateful just for that.
Sending positive vibes your way. Don't lose hope. Start again when you are both ready.
You will have your rainbow.
Wishing you all the best x

Hi OP just sending massive hugs. I know how tough it is to have a loss at this time of the year. In 2018 I had an MMC just before Christmas, early scan was ok, but 12 week wasn’t and I began to miscarry two weeks later. It was hard to be around family. Great to have their support but felt lonely to be sad at such a family time! I found the timing much harder than previous loses.

In terms of hope: we fell pregnant 2 months later and had a little girl in Dec 2019, and I am 20 weeks pregnant again and all is going well.

Just wanted to say take care of yourselves. Take time. Be kind to each other. It’s a shitty thing to happen. Hope you are both as ok as can be xx

I am so sorry for your loss @Lostwordsblessing. What a hideous thing to go through and what a terrible Christmas. I hope you can take time to heal and it’s wonderful that you have such a supportive partner. Take it easy and hold on to each other.
I went through a very similar experience last June. We lost our pregnancy at 8 weeks and then had a surgical intervention at 12 weeks.

Six weeks later we fell pregnant again - which was scary as well as thrilling. I am now 20 weeks pregnant and praying I make it to full term with this our first child. We will always remember our first though ... our one in heaven.
I hope and pray things work out for you in 2021. We all need it to be a better year.