37 expecting my 5th 🙈 I think my family are going to think I’m mad!

[Rachyy83]

Literally just found out I’m expecting my 5th child. My relationship with OH has been rocky to say the least! I fell pregnant with twins only after a month of dating him. I already had my DD she was 6.
My twin pregnancy was really difficult mentally, I had perinatal depression and then postnatal depression for a good 4years!
Then I fell pregnant with my DS and was determined to not suffer and was actually given all the right support, everything went amazing and the last 2years with my DS has been a dream! I become a better mother to all my children and tbh didn’t find it that hard. (Nothing could be as hard as multiples!)
So back to my rocky relationship, it’s been hard with the mental health struggle! My OH is actually 9years younger. He has never had to stand on his own two feet and from the beginning I took on his mothers roll!! 🙈 built a rod for my back! But as my mental health grew better and better the more I resented doing anything for him. So I got to breaking point 2months ago, and ended the relationship. I was ready to do me and start my new life. But it turned out it was the actual wake up call he needed, he was determined to fight for me and show me he means it. Said he has been a complete fool and how he can see all his errors. I was still skeptical and had a very big guard up! I said actions speak louder... since then every single day I have felt blessed, I’ve had some terrible things happen to me in my life and for once I actually feel like wow he really does love me and he wants me that much he’s guna fight like hell for me!!- ok fast forward to make up sex... we had sex once 4weeks ago (I had stopped using the pill not long before we broke up, for health reasons) our 2yr old DS is very clingy and there really isn’t much hanky panky!! 🤣 so I was definitely shocked to find out I’m pregnant this morning.... I’m not going to be telling my parents just yet, but I know they won’t approve! Everyone of my pregnancy has been a bit of a disappointment to them! I’m such a chicken too I would rather just turn up with a bby like surprise 🙈🤣 any advice would be amazing 😘😘

You sound like a very strong person. If I were you, I'd probably not tell them at all if all they are going to do is express disappointment. You and your kids deserve better than that! That's great news about your OH! Stuff those parents of yours and just enjoy growing your family! Congratulations!

I had a dc at 37. He was number 10. Way way past giving a hoot what anyone had to say. Am nc with both my dm and df. Df thinks I only have 4 dc!!. Congratulations op!!

My people! I was 37 when I had my 6th! Didn't tell my folks until I was 32 weeks Congratulations OP

Congratulations. If you don't rely on them for anything then their opinion does not count. How was OH when you told him?

I can see why your family would think getting accidentally pregnant so many times is mad.. However if you are not going to rely in your family(financially, childcare) then their opinion is irrelevant.

I’m 20 weeks haven’t told my mum and don’t plan to till it’s much later! Just kept my jacket on when I have seen her. She was less than excited about our first and negative the whole pregnancy for no good reason which caused me a lot of upset as it was a tough pregnancy, and this one is night and day!she also told everyone she met my private health info and so she gets none of that either anymore! I’m planning to keep it quiet that way as long as I can! Don’t feel you have to share the news till you want to! Congrats!

Thank you so much! 🥰 the pregnancy has been put on hold as OH tested positive for COVID on Monday!! He has been really poorly. So I have been madly cleaning and keeping the kids away!! Really stressful!! But we seem to be turning a corner and he is recovering and touch wood me and kiddies seem fine!! 😅 I’m just going to get through Christmas and wait till I’ve had a scan and see how I feel then! Kinda decided I’m going to write to them and tell them when I’m ready. This way they can then contact me when they are not showing disappointment 🤣 they will be fine it’s just the initial reaction 🙈 thanks for ur kind words of support 😘 merry Christmas to you and yours! 💗

Hey, no I’ve never relied on them, my brother has always burdened them so I have always made sure I never do! It’s more they worry how I will cope. They are amazing parents and would do anything for me anyway. I just think they might of rather I had a more simple life! But my kids are my everything and the thing I got the most right in life. They will be happy in the end it’s just not something they would gush over and cry happy tears!! I’m just a chicken and don’t quite know how to break it to them.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. Presumably you are in a covid hit country so staying away from others means you can reveal your pregnancy or birth of baby on your own terms.

I would say that he hasn’t really had much time to prove he has changed and things will be different so do be prepared to do this alone.