Appointment question - partners

[nervouswreck21]

Hi.

I know partners are now allowed back with you for labour etc but does this mean they can come with you for midwife appts as well?

Thanks in advance

It should do, but you should still call and check with the hospital first.

I'd call and check but honestly even before covid I don't know anyone whose partners went to midwives appointments - it's like a 5-10 minutes general check up - do a wee sample, quick chat, maybe listen to the heartbeat

I had my 16 week appointment on Monday and DH was able to come. It’s with checking with your trust though

Depends on your trust

At my hospital you are now allowed to bring one other person to each appointment / scan (as well as labour) etc. Perhaps call and check? Or maybe they have info online?

My trust aren’t allowing partners at midwife appointments, but they are allowed to come to scans and appointments with consultants. You need to check with your midwife team

You need to check in advance. I had a scan yesterday alone and chatted to a nurse about the new guidance. Trusts and hospitals are being asked to put provision in place for partners to be able to come. For example in my hospital, it means screens in scan rooms. They've been ordered but it could be weeks or potentially months before they're fitted, so they're expecting lots of angry phone calls yet asking why partners still can't come.

No. In a lot of trusts partners are only allowed at the 20 week scan, maybe 12 week scan too if they’re lucky.

You need to ring and ask but be prepared for it to be a flat out no.

Hi I just have received my first appointment and it states partners allowed at scan appointments but not the first midwife appointment.

There really isn’t any point in taking them to a normal midwife appointment even if they are allowed, they’d be sat there like a spare part. My husband only went to the main scans with our first 2 children, this one he hasn’t been allowed to anything. I think it’s a good thing in many ways that they are restricting it, the less people the midwives are in contact with the less likely they are to pass it onto you.

I think one reason partners aren't allowed for a lot of trusts isn't to do with covid but to do with protecting against abuse. If you don't get any time alone with the midwife then women being abused are unlikely to be able to voice any concerns.