Suddenly feeling a little freaked out about having a baby

[DiabeticFirstBaby]

Hello, I've got my 20 week scan tomo, first baby and very much wanted. Tried for around 7mo this before getting BFP, in a happy and stable marriage.
It suddenly hit me today that at the end of April our lives are going to drastically change with our baby arriving and it suddenly made me feel a little freaked out that things are going to change etc.
Does anyone feel similar and is it usual to feel like this?

Thank you!

I think everyone feels like that, it's perfectly normal. I'd be worried if you weren't a little freaked out. Your life is going to change massively soon.

You'll be fine, congratulations. Just keep telling yourself that it will get easier as they get older.

Absolutely! It's really nice for me to here this tbh, I'm 26 weeks pregnant and still find myself worrying that I'm not ready and I'll fail. I feel so happy and lucky to be pregnant with no complications and have had a really easy pregnancy so far, but sometimes I find myself feeling really down/upset about the changes to my body and if it'll change my relationship. I think it's easy to feel overwhelmed with the amount of hormones going through our bodies and having no idea what the future holds, it's terrifying but I'm sure we'll be fine!

Emily Oster has some brilliant books about parenting and a website with loads of great content. You can also sign up for her email newsletter.

emilyoster.net/

Here book on babies/toddlers is called CribSheet (scroll down to the bottom of the webpage).

And you will be fine. My two are in uni now and doing great. DH and I survived.

Hi I'm 10 weeks so way behind you but I also feel the same. I'm not concerned about the change in lifestyle as I feel ready for that, but I really doubt my abilities and because I'm a serial procrastinator I feel I'm going to fail as a decent mum because of this. I'm just not organised and I know you need to be as a new parent.

Thank you for all the replies! It makes me feel better that others feel the same! x

I’m 32 weeks and exactly the same! A family member had her baby a few days ago and when I heard she was in labour I balled my eyes out to my boyfriend having a “holy crap I’m next and I can’t do it!” meltdown 🤣 all part the fun right!?

So glad you posted this, feels like a betrayal to our very wanted baby but Im feeling quite nervous every now and then about how much life will change, especially when I think too far ahead about balancing work and a young child. Doesn’t help my partner has absolutely no worries or concerns!

Emily Oster has some brilliant books about parenting. Here's her website

emilyoster.net

Her book for babies/toddlers is called Cribsheet. She also has blog with lots of free content and you can sign up for her news letter at the address above. Here's the blog:

emilyoster.substack.com

I really wish she had been around when mine were little!

Don't worry I'm 31 weeks with twins (much wanted IVF babies - took years to conceive and spent £35k to have!) and I'm bloody petrified 🤣

Me 🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️🤣28 weeks and now home working so feeling the reality Kicking in!!! I feel most worried that I won't know what to do!! Or be a rubbish mum 😰 so was pleased to see this thread and read that I'm not alone!! X

Me too!

34 weeks, took a long time to conceive and had a miscarriage last year. This baby is very much wanted, but it looks like I’ll need to be induced at 38 weeks for medical reasons and the fact I’ll be responsible for a little human sooner than I thought has sent me over the edge! 😂

When I had DD1, the panic hit me as soon as I had her and lasted for a couple of weeks.
Everything does change and it is scary but it's also the most amazing thing ever!
My children are the absolute light of my life (and also massive pains in the bum 😂)

It's all going to be ok 😊

Congrats on your pregnancy! Xx