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Potential good news re partners at scans and appointments

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Littlebee1990 · 15/12/2020 21:50

www.england.nhs.uk/coronavirus/publication/supporting-pregnant-women-using-maternity-services-during-the-coronavirus-pandemic-actions-for-nhs-providers/

Thought I’d share 😌🤞🏼

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Elopelo · 15/12/2020 22:00

Thanks for this OP. Saw an article on The Mirror today but wasn't sure if it was accurate or not. I am really glad to hear they have finally listened because I was getting more and more worked up about labour. My hospital trust were only allowing birth partners in for active labour and for an hour on the ward. I have skimmed the document and wonder if this time will also be extended, an hour is nothing!

mabel12345 · 15/12/2020 23:08

Oh that’s great, fingers crossed ! I hope they will make some changes in the new year, I have my 20 week scan in January and I’ve been told it’s the most exciting one ! Really hoping that my partner will be allowed to join me 🤞🏼

ivfbeenbusy · 16/12/2020 04:02

Doesn't sound like it will make any difference to partners not being allowed on the ward after birth and no visiting hours? Partners were allowed in for labour anyway contrary to what the media reports and I'd rather have partner visit after the birth than attend a scan

October2020 · 16/12/2020 04:26

Speak for yourself, @ivfbeenbusy, I laboured entirely alone as my partner wasn't allowed in until 'active labour' which the midwife totally misjudged and didn't think I was in until she realised she could see my child's foot and I had an emergency c-section... my husband got into theatre just in time for the delivery purely because the visiting hour he was allowed in for happened to coincide with that panic. I know three friends whose husbands missed almost all of their labours in similar ways and one poor friend whose husband missed the birth entirely as although he was sat in the car park waiting to be called in, she progressed so quickly that nobody rang him in time.

We were sort of lucky in that my baby went to the NICU for weeks and they had 24hr visiting for both parents (and have done the whole way through) so we were together all day and I just went back to my ward at night... but I know so many of my friends who really suffered not having partners in after the birth and I totally agree that that is way more important than being there for scans (which I also did by myself....).

Feeling progressively more bitter about the whole experience tbh. Rant over!

physicskate · 16/12/2020 07:17

On that doc it says 'women should have support... on antenatal and postnatal in line with pre-covid trust policies.' Looks to me like they say visiting should not be viewed as a visit, but as support, which is totally what it is.

I was bruised up to nearly my belly button with my vaginal birth. Had suffered terrible pgp and couldn't get off the bed myself. I was less mobile than the women who'd had c-sections.

Midwives were too busy to supply me with the regular meds I was supposed to be getting, let alone help me take care of my baby. My night alone on the ward was one of the worst of my life. And all that was PRE COVID. This was why I refused a second night in hospital.

Partners aren't visitors. They are support, carers and honestly, their presence (the majority of the time) helps the midwives too!!! As it meant I didn't need to bother midwives for every nappy change or everytime I needed to get out of bed for a wee or whatever.

Many partners are part of the same bubble, it totally should be a non-issue if both are testing negative. I've heard stories of vulnerable (at their most vulnerable) bullied into making choices they didn't want to make because they didn't have an advocate.

This whole this is super sexist. It really grinds my gears.

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