Christmas news

[horsey92]

I'll be 6+3 on Christmas Day and so far only us 2 and my work know(had to tell them for safety reasons)
Anyone else been this early at Christmas and wanted to tell your parents? We're spending the day with them and staying over, my mum will be thinking it's VERY strange I'm not drinking Prosecco (i like a glass or three 🙊)
Part of me wants to tell them but also part of me wants to just keep it a secret a bit longer!

Tell them!

I told my parents as soon as i peed on a stick practically!
Why wouldn't you? If ( god forbid) something awful happens, then wont' you want their love and support?

I got caught last xmas at 8 weeks because I wasn't drinking, and couldn't hide it on my face! Tell them. If it doesn't work out would you not tell them anyway for support? Bit of happy news at the end of a bad year.

My parents knew the day I found out with both of my kids lol. My thoughts were I'd need them should the worse happen, and I'd need support if I was sick etc.

@horsey92

I'll be 6+3 on Christmas Day and so far only us 2 and my work know(had to tell them for safety reasons) Anyone else been this early at Christmas and wanted to tell your parents? We're spending the day with them and staying over, my mum will be thinking it's VERY strange I'm not drinking Prosecco (i like a glass or three 🙊) Part of me wants to tell them but also part of me wants to just keep it a secret a bit longer!

Not to be a Debbie Downer but I did two years ago and miscarried 3 weeks later. Only tell if you'd be ok sharing the news of a miscarriage.

Sorry, probably not the happy reply you wanted.

I'll be 6+4 on Christmas Day and I'll be telling all mine and OH's siblings. Our parents already know, we told them on the day we found out (3+4).

My theory is that if I would expect or want support from a person in the case of difficulties or a loss, what's the harm in telling them?

Every person is different though! You just have to do whatever feels right to you. I'm a very open person naturally and with most other things in life, so it wasn't a question for me. If you're more of a private person, there's nothing wrong with keeping it secret a while longer.

Hope this helps!

@3rdtimelucky2019 even getting past the "12 week safe mark" is no guarantee of a baby at the end of the pregnancy. I had a stillbirth.

OP just tell them. And congratulations!

[quote lifebytheby]@3rdtimelucky2019 even getting past the "12 week safe mark" is no guarantee of a baby at the end of the pregnancy. I had a stillbirth.

OP just tell them. And congratulations! [/quote]
Completely get that. I'm an incredibly private person though and in hindsight, would rather have kept my miscarriage a complete secret.

Sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to imagine.

I'd tell mine

Only because jf something was to happen, I would want their support. I would swear them to secrecy though!

I found out the morning of a family gathering for my husband's birthday. Told both sets of parents & his sister together, as we live round the corner so they'd have known anyway when I didn't drink! Was lovely to tell everyone together, & if anything had happened they are all people we would have wanted support from.

I'm very much half and half at the minute!!

I told my parents at 7 weeks and miscarried at 10 weeks. I would have told them anyway about the miscarriage but it definitely made it hard with them having been so excited and happy those three weeks and to then have to tell them the news. Next time (hopefully!) I wont be telling anyone for as long as possible, at least 12 weeks.

Yes I told my parents on Christmas day and I was six weeks. We had told them we were engaged the year before so seemed a nice idea. And if I was to miscarry, I would tell them that too, and being parents themselves (obviously), they understand that anything can happen in the early weeks.