Only 14 months between my two babies - looking for reassurance and advice

[mclaughlinsamantha]

Hi

Was just wondering if anybody can offer any words of comfort. I am expecting my second baby in December by which time my little girl will be 14 months old. Everyone I come into contact with seems to put a negative spin on things - all they ever say is "oh, you'll be busy!" or "I bet this one was an accident!"

Can anyone tell me what it's like having a short age-gap between their children.

Thanks a lot.

Sam

Thanks so much for asll your positive coments - this has made me feel so much better.

Pigletmaker - Actual due date is December 10th so shouldn't be too much behind you!

Hello,

Just wanted to echo the postings on here about siblings. Can't speak for having them as I'm only due with my first, but there is 11 months between me and my sister, then another 18 months between her and my little sister so we are all very close in age. It must have been hard for my Mum at first, but I know it paid off for her when we were old enough to play together - of which there are far more years than when we were babies together!

Then there's the massive plus side for your LOs. Me and my sisters are incredibly close - nothing could break the friendship (late pg hormonal state is getting me close to tears to type this but it's true) and that will be worth any amount of hard times to watch as they grow up.
When my first LO comes in November I will be hoping to follow my Mums example with a quick 2nd all being well.

going to be 9 years between mine when this one is born. There would have been 19 months between my ds and the baby I lost to ectopic and then could not get preg again for years...

I say tell them to push off, negative commenters.

Although I now have fully independant child who is size of a mini man who can carry full bags of shopping and make his own food and wash the dishes.

Now I am thinking yeah...who needs a nanny.

There's 18 months between my two and it's lovely. Definitely tiring but definitely worth it (and they're both sleeping whilst I'm on mumsnet, phew).

People made lots of comments about sibling jealousy when I was pregnant the second time, so I always make sure that those people get to hear the stories of how they hold hands in the pram/kiss each other etc.

Hi Sam, my DD will be 21 months when my next DD is due (due december same as you) so I know there is more of a gap, but I am still freaked out about how we will cope so I'm with you there. And yes, had lots of "helpful" comments like "you must be mad" and suchlike.

Reading all your other responses has actually made me feel alot better and in more of a 'can-do' frame of mind about it. Hope it helps you too.

Good luck with your pregnancy,
Gemy
xx

Meant to say earlier (dd1 hit post message key, clever munchkin!) good luck with everything and congratulations on having two so close together!

people talk rubbish. I had a 6 year old a 14 month old and a 8 week old. It’s obviously hard at first with a newborn but once u get past the feeding/night shifts it becomes the most beautiful creation. I have no village and now looking back once they get older it’s just amazing. Yes there was hard times and tantrums but it’s all so easily brushed off. The amount of silly comments I got from woman mostly….pft! Jealously. You will be fine! :) live it and enjoy it xxx