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I don’t think it can get much worse...

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Hannahp3 · 10/12/2020 20:53

I have pelvic girdle pain and a trapped nerve in my back due to babies position, I have exercises that have been given by the physio which I do regular, pregnancy pillow etc. I worked crazy hours up until last week. Now on maternity. I am now 34 weeks nearly 35 and the pain is unbearable. I had both my girls without any form of pain relief not even gas and air so my pain threshold is pretty decent. Even the simple school run totally puts me out for the night! So my question is, any positive experiences where they haven’t let you go over 40 weeks? I don’t think I can possibly last longer than 40 without having an emotional breakdown I feel totally useless to my girls right now 😩 partner is also trying to shorten hours to help out but as always money does come first to a family in this climate! He’s being amazing. Thanks in advance

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TerribleImagination · 11/12/2020 09:26

Have you tried a chiropractor? I’ve got a history of lower back pain and sciatica and got this a few weeks back in my third trimester. I went to the chiropractor and (alongside stretching and keeping moving through the pain) it’s significantly better after almost 3 weeks! Could be worth a try if you haven’t already?

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Hannahp3 · 11/12/2020 16:51

Erm no I haven’t? Is it private or something? They did say I’d of normally gone to the physio pre COVID but aren’t really offering it at the minute x

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AndWhat · 11/12/2020 16:54

I was 37weeks and induced due to pelvic girdle and high bp. (They did say they would have done just for the pelvic girdle though).
Best advice I was given by the midwife was to lay on my side during labour. Stress to the delivery midwife about your pgp and they’ll help you through it. Good luck

Iknewyouwerewaitingforme · 11/12/2020 17:13

I feel for you suffering pain in late pregnancy. However I think the title of your thread is verging on melodramatic and a little sensitive conserving there are women on this board going through miscarriages - so yes- it could be a lot worse.

Iknewyouwerewaitingforme · 11/12/2020 17:13

#considering

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Hannahp3 · 11/12/2020 17:14

Yes me being one of them, so being highly concerned and worried is part of my pregnancy! Always one that has to be negative isn’t there

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Hannahp3 · 11/12/2020 17:16

I also meant the pain not being any worse as it’s quite possible the worst pain I have felt. Stated in my post about going through tough labours and also a very bad miscarriage with no pain relief... it’s nearly Christmas, cheer up

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Iknewyouwerewaitingforme · 11/12/2020 17:18

It’s not being negative- it’s pointing something out.
You are a few weeks away from having your baby- the end is in sight, be happy.

Oh and get some acupuncture for the pain- it really helps.

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Hannahp3 · 11/12/2020 17:20

Pointing something out that isn’t needed maybe. Yeah the end is near which I didn’t think I would see with this baby which is something I am very very grateful for and feel especially lucky

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mintich · 11/12/2020 17:21

I know how you feel!! 35 weeks and in lots of pain! Pelvic girdle pain is horrible and my knees are extremely painful too.
I'm exhausted but just need to make it through these next few weeks. We can get through this!

Iknewyouwerewaitingforme · 11/12/2020 17:21

It’s needed because you posted it. And continue to be defiant.

DontWalkPastTheCastle · 11/12/2020 17:25

@Iknewyouwerewaitingforme

I feel for you suffering pain in late pregnancy. However I think the title of your thread is verging on melodramatic and a little sensitive conserving there are women on this board going through miscarriages - so yes- it could be a lot worse.
For god's sake. Bugger off and let people vent, the OP is clearly in a huge amount of pain and she doesn't have to be grateful it isn't something worse. She can just be in pain.

Defiant Hmm who do you think you are?

AliceinBunniland · 11/12/2020 17:28

I'm sure you didn't mean anything by it but I thought the same about your title as @Iknewyouwerewaitingforme

I lost my baby at 40 weeks last year so as long as you have a living baby it can always be worse. I also had PGP so I know that can be difficult and I hope you find relief. You should speak to your midwife if you are really struggling. I hope it all goes well for you Flowers

DollyParton2 · 11/12/2020 18:04

I also thought the same. Just address the specific issue in the title you’d get a lot more response. Feel there’s no need on a pregnancy of all forums to use such an ambiguous title, sorry.

Hrcg87 · 11/12/2020 18:14

Hi

I have pgp and found the pelvic partnership website helpful, was recommended by the midwife, but the best thing by far has been going to see a womens health physio - i have gone private as nhs not doing hands on due to covid but honestly its worth every penny if you can afford it.

Also found the belloost cushion (again expensive but has been great for relief) helpful and a spiky massage ball that was a couple of quid from amazon.

Try taking very small steps like an old lady shuffling, heat pads 20 mins in 20 mins off and ice helps too.

Larabelle6 · 11/12/2020 20:15

I had private physio up until 36 weeks - really hands on physio where they manipulated the area, only really got relief for 2-3 day’s after but was totally worth it.

I was consultant led due to anxiety and after a tearful appointment at 36 weeks they booked for induction at 39 weeks, sweeps starting at 38. Sweeps did nothing (had about 8 in total), failed induction but she was out within 2 hours once they broke my waters and it was almost instant relief!! I did have gas and air but that was a step down from the pethadine last time and compared to the pelvic pain it was a breeze!

I get what some people are saying on here but I had it from 16 weeks and it’s just really crap! Hang on in there... in my area (north east) they routinely induce at 40 weeks if requested, I can’t see them making you go past that. Good luck xx

TerribleImagination · 12/12/2020 09:25

@Hannahp3 Yeah the chiropractor is private. If you just Google for ones in your area and check them out so they’re legit etc I’d get some sessions booked in! My pain has significantly reduced now and it makes the world of difference. It’s absolutely rotten and debilitating being in so much pain. Hope you get some relief soon! x

serialplanner · 12/12/2020 21:39

@Iknewyouwerewaitingforme if you don't have something helpful to say for the person's post- don't say it!

Can't stand a keyboard warrior. We all have different challenges and this lady created her own post not like she shared on a miscarriage thread.

Cheek of it🙄

cat709 · 12/12/2020 22:36

@Hannahp3
It's cringing reading posters having a go at you for the title.. ignore them love!
I have pelvic girdle pain at 30 weeks and it's so utterly miserable it's hard to see the light. Keep going - at least the pelvic pain is meant to improve shortly after birth. That's what I'm banking on! Xx

physicskate · 13/12/2020 07:27

Private chiropractor or osteopath trained for pregnancy issues. A list of recommended practitioners is on the pelvic partnership website (but there are great practitioners not on the list too!!).

I had it from 12 weeks last time. Crutches at 25 weeks and completely housebound by 31. Begging for induction by 37... baby arrived at 40+5.

Started seeing an osteopath 6 months post partum. Saw her twice then and everything was better.

I'm currently 24 weeks with number 2. It started this time at 8 (!!!!!) weeks. I see my osteopath once every 2-3 weeks. I can still walk for maybe 10 mins. No signs of needing crutches and I'm hopeful I can avoid them altogether.

What a difference a good hands on practitioner makes to quality of life.

Willieowinsbury · 13/12/2020 12:22

Sorry for your pain op and everyone else! I had it for the last trimester of my first and now it's started again at almost 8 weeks into my second 😞 Anyone have a recommendation of a good London practitioner?

HeyDW96 · 14/12/2020 07:43

@Iknewyouwerewaitingforme Just because some people view OP's situation as 'lucky' doesn't means it's fckn enjoyable. There are lots of women who complain in pregnancy about the aches and pains, the constant need to pee, the difficulty of growing and carrying a tiny human! Women who have healthy pregnancies are allowed to despair towards the end, as many do!! Especially if in pain! I cried all the way home from Costco the other day because I forgot my card and couldn't go, does that annoy you aswell?

HannahP2014 · 19/12/2020 20:38

I actually came off the site and deleted my account because I felt I had upset people that had lost babies when infact I am also one of those people!
I have struggled a lot the last week or so, and felt completely useless to my two older girls! What is happening to this world where a simple nice comment to keep someone going can’t be just said or better nothing at all!
I appreciate the lovely comments, it’s really helped coming back and reading them!
My title of this post is referred to as in my pain couldn’t get any worse not my life or my circumstances!! I used to read too far into things once upon a time also, was not healthy Smile

Larabelle6 · 19/12/2020 22:47

@HannahP2014 it was brutal. Don’t like the title then scroll on past. I, like you have had a miscarriage - doesn’t mean I enjoyed every second of my last pregnancy. I have a friend recently lost a baby At around 28 weeks - she wouldn’t have taken offence. I read Mumsnet but rarely post or comment as I find it the most judgement forum there is (I’ve wanted to write that sentence for sooo long). Spd / pgp is horrendous, i really feel for you. Hopefully now you’re not too far away from delivery? Xx

HannahP2014 · 20/12/2020 08:24

@Larabelle6 I have a midwife appointment Tuesday, she said we will talk more in depth then!
Like I think some pain is equivalent to losing a baby, I would be absolutely deluded!!
I have lost a baby and also nearly lost both my girls after delivery, I’m not mean or in my own world. I’m clearly very anxious and worried! Thank you for the support!xx