Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Panicking and feel like a rabbit in headlights

7 replies

Pearsapiece · 10/12/2020 19:43

I don't know why I suddenly feel so panicked.
I'm 32 weeks pregnant with dc2. Ds1 is 2.2yrs and this baby is due in February.
Had a growth scan today and its basically hit me like a ton of bricks that this baby will be here soon. I feel so unprepared even though I've bought the things we need.
I'm panicking over packing a hospital bag but only because I feel like it's going to make it feel more real and I'm scared of that.
I'm panicking because I really really want to breastfeed this baby but what if I can't do it?!
Im having a c section and I feel guilty that ds's life will be turned upside down all of a sudden and I won't be able to lift him or do what I usually do with him.

Someone please calm me down and talk some sense into me.
I know no one can tell me if I'll be able to breastfeed, but can someone reassure me that it might be possible?
I feel like I've forgotten everything I learnt with ds and I'm going to be like a rabbit in headlights again.
My heads a bit of a mess!
This baby is coming in 7 weeks and I feel like this, the poor thing! Help me feel better about it all please

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Pearsapiece · 10/12/2020 19:44

Just to clarify, I formula fed ds for various reasons so bf will be new to me.

OP posts:
physicskate · 10/12/2020 19:48

You will in all likelihood be fine to breastfeed. But remember: it's more than fine to not bf too.

The first 6-8 weeks of bf seem impossible, but once you get past the constant cluster feeds, it's way easier than bottles.

I think you're being way to hard on yourself. At the end of the day, the recovery period will be a blip in your lives and your ds will be fine.

It's natural to panic, but life will get sorted out.

Pearsapiece · 10/12/2020 19:54

Thank you. The blip in your lives comment is what I needed to hear. Its not going to scar ds for life that I couldn't lift him for 6 weeks!

OP posts:
physicskate · 10/12/2020 20:58

A million times that!!! Plus he will have his sibling for the rest of their lives. You're giving him a gift. Sure it'll have ups and downs (life always does) but things will come right in the end.

RBF92 · 11/12/2020 23:43

I don't have any advice but I've been feeling exactly the same! I'm almost 35 weeks and although DH and I tried for this baby and have been really excited, over the last few weeks I've just felt really panicked and scared! This is my first baby and I'm just terrified I won't know what to do, I too would love to breastfeed but am scared about not being able to! I feel really unprepared even though I know we have everything we need. I just feel disorganised and I don't know how to keep calm about everything.

Ifyoulikepinacoladaa · 11/12/2020 23:50

This was me a few weeks ago! Everything was done so last minute. I couldn’t seem to accept I was having another baby.
Baby is here now and it’s all fine. You will be fine too.

Moo678 · 12/12/2020 07:03

I was tidying up the other day and found my hypnobirthing notes from when I was pregnant with baby 3. I had made a list of all the things I was worried about as part of my homework.

Baby 3 is 2.5 now and reading through the list the worries seem so trivial and far away even though some of them had actually happened! You will be absolutely fine - whatever obstacles you meet you will be able to overcome.

With breastfeeding I’ve been lucky to have a pretty easy ride with all of mine. It can be tough but it might not be. Make sure you ask for help while you’re in hospital - get the midwives to help you latch baby and watch you feed.

You will be just fine 🤗

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread