When did you tell family?

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Did you stick to the 12 week rule? Or did you tell anyone before (especially your own mum?)

After the dating scan both times. First time I knew my mum wouldn't be able to keep it to herself and I wanted to be the one to tell the rest of the family when ready.
Second time I wanted my little girl to be the first to know but didn't want to tell her until we knew things were ok.

I told my mum as soon as I knew every time. I knew she would support me if anything went wrong and she did. Told in laws at 8 weeks in my first pregnancy but they were awful when we miscarried. Next two pregnancies we knew they wouldn’t be any support if we miscarried (which we did) so there was nothing to gain from telling them. With my eventual successful pregnancy we told them at 20 weeks when it was glaringly obvious.

Told my mum and partners mum straight away so around four weeks. I then told my manager next day and one close friend (mainly cause she guessed). We then told my family on Xmas eve as I thought it'll be a lovely surprise and they would have questioned why I was wasn't drinking! At that point I thought I was 9 weeks but turned out to be 8 so quite early really. I was nervous because of waiting for the scan but I knew they would have been supported if anything would have happened.

We waited until the first scan at 12 weeks to make sure everything was ok...also told my work after telling my parents xx

Hate it being referred to as a "rule"

Told family immediately, which was right for me.

I told my mum and best friends the day I found out. Close family after a private scan at 9 weeks. Everyone else at 12. My pregnancy wasn’t planned so I really needed the support and advice in the early days.

No such thing as the 12 week rule. There is a convention that many follow about not telling anyone until they've had the first scan but it is entirely up to you.

I hate hearing it described as a rule and any woman feeling they are not allowed to speak about their pregnancy whenever they want to.

We told immediate family at about 5 weeks. And a couple of friends. My first pregnancy then ended in a miscarriage at 10 weeks. Did exactly the same second time, actually told more people just because I happened to see more people earlier on and the topic came up.

Told my Mum and boss at 3wks when I found out. I've had 2 losses this year and needed them to know as my anxiety was through the roof and I couldn't focus on work etc. A few close friends told around 10 wks (NHS scan at 9 wks) and everyone else at about 21. Still haven't told everyone. I do understand why people wait - I planned to with my 1st. But actually it wasn't helpful at all. Having some support is great whatever happens and it's really helped having people I can talk to from the beginning in this PG (now 23 wks). I still personally wouldn't announce to the whole world early - there's a difference between telling your Mum if something bad happens and having to explain to 2nd cousin Bob's ex-wife Lisa when you run into her at Tesco.

I told work the day after the positive test at 5 weeks between then and then dating scan I told a few colleagues as I needed them to do work for me that I could no longer do

We told my partners family at 16 weeks and my family at 17 weeks. We told friends after the anomaly scan

I've just also found out I'm 4 weeks pregnant. We are so excited to tell our families and they will all know in the next couple of weeks. Reading some of the losses here is heart breaking but also makes me want my family in the know even more

2 DC & expecting third- all times I told my mum few days after the first positive test! I can’t help myself & she always says she can tell by “my glow” anyway! (Ie. I’m off the booze so I suddenly look healthier!). My dad/ brother few weeks after but most friends after 12 weeks.

Last year we had our first bfp.
I wanted to follow the stupid 12 week rules because that's "what people do" i had heard.
However, it was my work xmas party the same night and i wasn't drinking so people started talking from work and i felt pressured to confirm. I was 4 weeks.
I didn't tell anyone else.
Few weeks later actual xmas day and i miscarried. I wasn't answering the phone to my family being in hospital and upset.
Eventually i called back and broke down telling the story. My mum and my twin brother were really disappointed that i hadn't shared the news of pregnancy or the miscarriage when it happened. They felt excluded and unable to support me. And i felt stupid.

Got pregnant again in july and went by MY rule which is tell whoever i want as long as i am comfortable also sharing the news of something going wrong or details of the ongoing pregnancy with updates etc...
So told close family members.
Waited for 16 weeks for close friends and 20 weeks for other people...

11 weeks, although I’d had a scan as by my period calculation I thought I was 14 weeks. I quite liked it being a secret those first few months and really wanted a scan picture to show them. It felt more real with a picture! Also lockdown made it easy, not like we had loads of pub nights planned.

I told family and a couple of close friends 3 days after finding at around 4 weeks, they all know I've waited a long time for this and I was so excited. They were all the people I would have turned to if I'd needed support. Its whatever feels right.

I've had 3 miscarriages and told people I was pregnant quite early on the first time. For this reason we kept it very quiet. One of my friends guessed at around 7 weeks as I wasn't drinking and so I told my other closest friend. My dp told one friend as he guessed around 10 weeks. Otherwise we told our parents and the majority of friends and family after my scan at 13 weeks. We had a few early scans at EPU beforehand, so we felt confident enough to share our news.