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15 male pregnant in an Asian family having issues with my boyfriend

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Jmp000 · 10/12/2020 00:33

I'm a bad student with a bad relationship, my parents have accommodated my life and paid a lot of money to get me through therapy for eating disorders and other burdens, and now here I am, pregnant.

I have literally no one to help me with this and it's even worse being in my own situation already.... Now I'm just hiding from everyone and I need help. I have a Korean Foster family who is very very strict and they've been abusive in the past. Already falling behind in school as it is and now I'm just sick all the time, can't even eat or think to myself. Literally don't know where to take it from here. currently around 10 weeks pregnant or possibly 12 but haven't been to the doctor yet. I would have the means to get there but I'm just really scared.I'm terrified for my health too because I have no idea what's going to happen to my body or what is happening and I'm also scared. Doctors won't take it too seriously after everything I've been through and my situation and it's a bad system anyway. I have my own situation going on that allows me to get pregnant after my boyfriend had with me multiple times and while he's here and lays reassuring me that he's here, I feel like he's really not and sometimes I feel like I'm not really here either. I'm having a lot of issues with my boyfriend of 5 years since last year but he's the only person I really got. He's starting to be really overbearing and he throw stuff at me and tells me to stop crying and he got mad at me because I puked all over his bed and he started breaking my stuff out the window and all he does is joke around about how fat I'm going to get and how much I'm eating (compared to my anorexia) and tells me he wants to have again. I don't know where things are going to go from here with him or how to help him cope with this. Just stuck.

OP posts:
SleepingStandingUp · 10/12/2020 00:37

If you are a foster child, you presumably have a social worker? You need to speak to them urgently

Notapheasantplucker · 10/12/2020 00:38

How old are you ? Do you live in the UK?

liverpool1981 · 10/12/2020 01:29

What age is your boyfriend is he 15 too??

MrsTerryPratchett · 10/12/2020 01:32

Any teacher, youth worker or friend's parent you trust? Tell them immediately.

All of it.

physicskate · 10/12/2020 08:52

Every journey begins with a single step. I echo everyone else. Tell someone. Social worker, teacher, doctor. Pick up a phone: that could be your single step.

This won't go away and burying your head will stop working.

trollopolis · 10/12/2020 08:58

What country are you in?

Use google to find information about pregnancy, and teen support services in your area.

And why on earth do you think that pregnancy isn't properly supported by doctors/other HCPs? Even if you are abroad and not covered by NHS, pregnancy isn't something a doctor will think you have just made up

CandyLeBonBon · 10/12/2020 09:00

You've been with your boyfriend since you were 10?

YoungScrappyHungry · 10/12/2020 09:15

^ This
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S111n20 · 10/12/2020 09:58

@MrsTerryPratchett

Any teacher, youth worker or friend's parent you trust? Tell them immediately.

All of it.

Absolutely this. Non of this is ok op.
ScrapThatThen · 10/12/2020 10:39

Can you call your doctor or health centre? Tell them about the strictness from Foster parents and the abuse from your partner so that they can best get you help. This is not your fault, you do not keep messing up, you have been let down and your behaviour is a normal reaction to a stressful childhood. Life can and will get better when you are in charge of your own direction x

JustLikeStitch · 10/12/2020 10:44

*CandyLeBonBon

You've been with your boyfriend since you were 10?*

Yeah, this....

helloxhristmas · 10/12/2020 10:50

I'm a bit confused. I take it you are not in te UK?

peachescariad · 10/12/2020 10:52

15 male pregnant?

KarenMarlow3 · 10/12/2020 10:58

I am very confused. Firstly, the title. Is it mistyped? Next, are you 15 and have been with this boy since you were 10? How was this allowed to happen if you were being looked after by a strict family?
You need to go to the doctor first of all, and if you have a social worker, let them know about the situation and ask for help.

Horehound · 10/12/2020 11:01

Nope nope nope. @mnhq are you therree?!

merryhouse · 10/12/2020 11:06

I'm presuming that's a typo, though goodness knows for what.

Jmp, whatever you've done in the past, you need to get professional help. You need help dealing with your pregnancy, you need help to get away from your abusive boyfriend.

You don't say what country you're in, though I'm suspecting not the UK. If you have the means to get to the doctor, do so and say "I'm pregnant and in an abusive relationship I need to get away from". Take the conversation from there, but don't be afraid to say that you are scared of your foster family.

And - it's clear why you're in this relationship, but honestly you seriously need to get out of it.

qazxc · 10/12/2020 11:08

Are you in the UK?
You need to talk to someone about this, a doctor, social worker, teacher,...

babbaloushka · 10/12/2020 11:10

You need to tell your SW

scrivette · 10/12/2020 11:25

Well done for reaching out on here.

You really do need to speak to someone in real life who can help to keep you safe. Is there a teacher or head of year or someone that you feel you could speak to? They will be able to offer the best advice for your own situation and help you.

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