Severe anxiety about new baby please help

[xMrsDx]

Hi, I’m 36 weeks and likely to be given c section around 38 weeks due to polyhydramnios. I have a 2 year old who I am absolutely in love with and I’m really really scared about this new baby devastating him. I keep having visions of him just crying and crying and wanting the new baby to go away and I’m even struggling to feel positive about this baby because I’m so worried about how it will effect him. The guilt is killing me. Does anyone else have anything they can share about similar feelings or experiences when introducing newborns to 2 year olds? Please help x

I don't have that experience (bigger age gap) but can tell you that pretty much everyone I know had a similar fear. We know this is a common feeling but it's still strange and worrying when you actually feel it. The love between siblings is truly beautiful. The little one will bring out a different side to the older one, you will be even more proud. I really think that the older one will follow your lead. Give yourself chance to bond with the new baby and nurture their bond too. New baby will not have the charmed existence of the first, it won't be a replica of the first time, they have to fit into an already established routine. You know more. It will change, just like life did with your first. More love, more opportunities, more reasons to be happy. Good luck

Thank you for taking the time to write that. Thank you so much x

I have a 2 year gap. Dd1 was 2 years, 2 months when dd2 was born this June. On the night before i was going to be induced, I cried so much because I was also convinced that I was going to ruin dd1's life by introducing a sibling.

I didn't. Dd1 adores dd2. When she saw her when we got home, dd1 said 'I love her, she's so cute and has pretty much kept saying it for the last 5 months.

I won't lie and say it's been a bed of roses. Dd1 has reached god tier of tantrums and had some difficult days at the childminder which we think was due to the changes of having dd2 but she has only ever expressed positive feelings for her sister. I make sure me and dd1 have special time together when dd2 naps and dd1 is very good at helping with dd2's nappy changing. The childminder issues dd1 had were quickly gotten over and we're just dealing with regular toddler lunacy now.

I have a friend with a similar gap whose eldest did express negative feelings for their sibling when he was born but she quickly got over it and they adore each other now.

It's a perfectly natural fear OP but as @Straysocks says, sibling love is gorgeous. I can't wait to see mine play together and I hope that in the future they're as close as I am to my brother.