Really sad & anxious - partners for 12 W scans?

[rosieb060]

I'm waiting for my 12W scan appointment.

I'm really sad and anxious at the idea that my husband might not be able to come.

Does anyone know if this restriction is being lifted anywhere?

I'm bowing out of this thread.

There's a lot of assumptions happening. Most of them aren't accurate. And 'other people have it worse than you' isn't very kind, empathetic, or helpful to anyone.

Thanks all for your time and responses. I'm sorry so many people have had it & and are having it so tough. I'm thinking of everyone xx

@rosieb060 I'm really really unsure as to why there is so much negativity you are allowed to feel whatever you feel in this time regardless of "other people being in the same situation" I know if my husband hadnt of been able to come I would of been so so upset, I was so scared laying there waiting for heartbeat and having him hold my hand made me feel better, don't let anyone shame you for your feelings, this is your pregnancy and your baby, good for them they feel strong enough to go without their partners. I hope you get to go together and share that beautiful moment xxxxxx

I’ve heard of some people just bringing their partner along anyway even if it says not to, and they’ve been allowed in! So maybe worry a go.

When I had a scan (which sadly ended up showing I’d mcd) my husband had to wait in the corridor while I was in the waiting room and then he came in with me for the scan. I’m really glad he was with me because it was such a horrible time xxx

That's not fair. OP is still allowed to be anxious about attending a scan alone even if you've had a miscarriage. She doesn't need to just be greatful she's pregnant and not be upset.

The thought of not having your partner at the 12 week scan is scary as you don't know what you're going to find out and the possibility of finding out bad news alone is awful. I was very lucky to be allowed my partner at my 12 week scan back in October, I was really nervous after a previous loss. It's a shame that it completely depends on where you live.

Hopefully things will have eased up soon but the only other way to get over the issue is to have a private scan that your partner can come to xx

Sorry my post meant to say ‘so maybe worth a go’

I’m shocked that some people are being so insensitive. There’s always someone who has been through worse, but it doesn’t mean it makes OPs worries less valid.

I’m not sure why people feel the need to post on this thread telling OP to ‘stop the pity party’ if you think this thread isn’t worth your time, just don’t post on it.

I wasn't allowed my husband at my 20w scan and found out at the door. It was a little upsetting but the situation sucks right now in a lot of different ways
Anyway I video called him and so we both "attended" the scan in a way.

I know how you feel! I was so scared and I'd have loved my partner at my 7, 9 and 12 week scans after my MMC at my last 12 week scan and my MC just before this pregnancy. I cried in the waiting room. Luckily all was well, and I didn't feel it was right for me to push to be accompanied even due to my circumstances.

Luckily all went well, but unfortunately, this is the way of the world at the moment. Sorry you're so anxious, just think you have a higher chance of it all going so well. I'd echo that private scans are good, if you can find an affordable one, so you can see the baby together. And your partner should be allowed at the 20w one.

We're in north Essex and my friends husband was allowed with her this week and another friend was a few weeks ago.