Fear of being lonely

[DSV20]

Hi MN's
I'm trying to convince myself that this is a common feeling!!
I'm hoping for a BFP soon and I am excited and sure that this is what I want however I have an overwhelming fear of becoming lonely when pregnant and when the baby arrives
For context all our friends are either studying, live a distance away or are still trying to get on the property ladder so won't be having any "mum friends" soon.
My brother is 9 years younger and SIL is 7 years younger so baby wouldn't have any cousins anytime soon.
Am I being silly to think I'm going to become quite lonely?
For those already had their first do you meet friends at classes? After the baby is born etc..?

Hi @DSV20 I can relate to this! Although my baby girl is going to have 2 cousins but I'll need to take her to see them as they can't travel to me with no car.

To be honest I am already feeling a bit lonely as I'm learning that even close friends aren't really that interested in my pregnancy, even those who've been through it. Whilst I've found this surprising and was initially a bit upset I've come to realise that this baby is mine and my hubby's joy and I don't need anyone else to be on the journey with me, as nice as it would be.

I am hoping that baby classes will have resumed some normality by March when I'm due to give birth so that, as you say I can hopefully meet new people who have common interests 😊

OP, everyone is different. Some women love being totally wrapped up in caring for their baby, others not so much.
If you find you are lonely and hate it, the answer is simple- cut short your maternity leave and get back to work, where you are surrounded by adult company.
Personally, I couldn’t get back to work quickly enough, much as I loved my two babies! My village was a bit of a graveyard after most of the adults left for work in the morning, and I found zero intellectual satisfaction discussing the contents of nappies or feeding regimes at the local mother/baby group.

I find covid makes life even lonelier these days. Still no baby group here. My friends who live nearby all work full time in schools and as I'm pregnant, consider them 'risky' - or maybe I'm using it as an excuse, I'm not sure.

I've got a 20 month old. It does get lonely. And I say this as an introvert!!!

I work part time (as full time wouldn't benefit us further as we'd just have to pay for more childcare, again because we don't want to create risks with grandparents... etc). My job is the only reason I'm sane. Went back when dd was about 9 months. Will have to take a full year off this time (as we need to wait until dd can get some free childcare). Almost dreading taking that long off and not really being able to do things/ go places and see people.

Not sure how much of it is just pregnancy/ being a mother during covid or how much is me doing it to myself though.