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Negative impact of pregnancy on friendships :(

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Popcornlassie28 · 06/12/2020 17:38

Hi ladies, I’m literally crying as I write this as I feel so awful but I need to get this off my chest.

Two of my good friends have their eldest children the same age as me and they were trying to conceive their second at the same time as my Partner and I were. I’m so sorry to say neither have them have been successful so far, which breaks my heart as I can’t imagine the pain and frustration.

However, I’m 32 weeks pregnant with my second baby after 5 months of trying.

I’ve experienced from the both the cold shoulder, they ignore me, avoid me and have stopped inviting me out and just stopped bothering me.

I haven’t talked about my pregnancy with them as I really wanted to be sensitive and they told me that’s why they prefer. They would rather avoid it because it triggers them.

I know I have a right so feel upset and they also have a right to feel upset too. I really empathise and I’m so sorry to them for them still waiting.

Has anyone else experienced this? I feel so guilty for being pregnant but I don’t want to feel this way as I’m so happy and excited.

Any advice? Am I in the wrong?

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Helenknowsbest · 06/12/2020 17:55

No definitely not in the wrong, sounds like you're being very considerate to their situation but it gives people no hall pass to shun people. I had been trying a year for my first and when I found out my cousin was pregnant it was extremely hard but I just had to get on with life and support her. My advice would be there's no need to end any friendships are have conflict etc. Give them some time they will come around. X

gypsywater · 06/12/2020 17:57

They're grieving. Just give them time. It will right itself in the end.

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