Ttc at 40 after a loss

[Sef89]

Just looking for positivity and successful stories of older mums who had a successful baby after 40 following loss and the feeling of bsadness etc, my gynae has kindly given me a hysteroscopy yesterday just purely to put my mind at rest as i had smm I may then was convinced it had affected my womb, but its absolutely fine so i can cross this worry off, I've had some blood test which are alos normal so i can cross this off, but im struggling with the turned 40 thing despite both gynae and gp telling me that fertility doesn't just disappear when you turn 40, and i conceived already this year, im not sure if im a bit black n white or something, but the 40 thing bothers me. Then lastly ive been depressed since loss so im worrying about the worry, again ive been told that lots of women conceive whilst depressed or stressed etc as long as you're ovulating which i am then its not an issue anyway looking for positivity etc thanks

Hey. I’m not 40 until January but I’m 13 wks pregnant with baby 4 after 3 losses last year. Everything is looking good despite me being old. I know lots of mums who have had babies after 40 it can definitely happen x

Aged 42 and currently 26 weeks pregnant after 3 losses spanning nine months before conceiving this little miracle. The first loss occurred just before I turned 41, so from my point of view you are starting off in a better position than I was!

I would advise you to do what you can to reduce stress. Worrying is natural, but logically speaking, it’s not helpful and only causes upset. I hope it works out for you 🌺

Hi there @Sef89
I'm 40 and currently 26 weeks pregnant after two miscarriages in last year. I read lots about low dose aspirin after second miscarriage and started taking it when fell pregnant this time although this was entirely my choice (but I was later told to double from 75mg to 150mg per day by midwife due to my age)

Hi currently pregnant (32 plus 5) after too mc. Both mc happened at 40 and 41. So managed to conceive at 41.

I saw a gynae privately after my first mc and mentioned i was worried about conceiving again. My son took 8 long months when I was 38 so was worried it would take longer post mc.

She was very clear the problem after 40 is you may not ovulate each month. Yes you have a period but you don't always release an egg.

She prescribed letrozole which I used and have called pregnant twice. The first ended in mc and the second one is currently cooking!

Thanks all positive. Did you take long to conceive on letrozole..... Did your gynaecologist remain about fertility after 40...

I'm 40 - 33 weeks pregnant. We conceived earlier in the year and it resulted in a chemical pregnancy. Then, we tried again, and this growing bump is the result. Your fertility really doesn't just fall off a cliff edge, and I think that whilst some of the publicity/pressure put on older mums to - well, get on with it earlier - is founded, a lot of it is unhelpful and borderline propaganda.

My partner and I met late (he's three years younger) and I had fully expected to struggle conceiving - so much so that I even went to a private clinic before we started trying just to discuss the options. I'd also primed my parents to lend us money for a THIRD round of IVF, even though we hadn't even had one round (we figured we could afford two rounds if needed), and hadn't even tried naturally yet. This was all because I had the belief it would be hard to conceive. I'd even cried over it, and worried that my partner wouldn't want to be with me if I couldn't give him a baby (though this had never come up, and was not something I should have been thinking about).

Naturally worked within a couple of months. I know I'm really lucky, and truly do feel fortunate, but I hope it gives you hope that age may not be everything in this matter. I know more younger friends who have struggled to conceive than older ones. My mum also had me at 39.

One book that may help is 'It starts with the egg'. There is some great advice about egg health in there. Some of it - like taking a good quality CoQ10 - I started a few months earlier; and also, I regulated my cycle - which had shortened a little to 25 or 26 days - by taking Vitamin B6 and Vitamin C. My cycle was back up to 28 days within two months.

Good luck and I hope it happens for you - please have hope and know there are many of us out there having children at this age!

I'm 42 and 30wks pregnant.

It did take a little longer to conceive than my toddler but I didn't take any supplements or do any fancy monitoring.
We did have fertility tests (NHS) and everything came back normal.