Constant anxiety.. anyone else?

[firsttimemamax]

Just that really, I'm having such a hard time feeling excited or happy during my pregnancy (I'm 25 weeks with my first, a boy) and I'm so excited to just have him out and in my arms where I can see that he is ok... every time he stops moving for an hour or so I go into overdrive of worry. The abdominal pains make me worry. The CM makes me worry. I spoke to the midwife yesterday but she has totally dismissed all my concerns which made me very upset. Anybody else worrying their way through pregnancy or just me?? X

@firsttimemamax hi there ☺️ this is my first, and I'm just as worried as you. I'm not as far along - probably only three weeks - but every niggle, twinge, pain or lack thereof has me paranoid and telling the OH we should expect the worst.

In fact I've not slept properly since I found out which can't be good for the baby and makes me worry more. So, you're not alone in this but I think we need to take the advice we would give to others which would be to relax and embrace this beautiful journey for what it is. Also, you've reached a milestone in terms of weeks so I believe your risk of MC is quite low.

Congratulations and try and enjoy as much as you can. X

Yes, me. It was horrendous when I was pregnant but I hate to say that now she's here, it is a million times worse. Seek support from the perinatal mental health team - they have been brilliant from pregnancy and now. You need support to get on top of it because it is so much worse when they're here (I also thought it would be better when I coukd see her but it is just a whole other world of worry I hadn't anticipated).

Omg yes me!! 26 weeks pregnant today with my first baby, a girl. It's the movement patterns that I'm worrying about right now. What if I can't spot the pattern? What if I've not noticed she's moved less? So as a consequence I'm constantly waiting for her moving every minute of the day!! Poor girl will be sleeping and I'm panicking! I think it's probably because I'm off work this week on holiday and have lots of time on my hands!!

Although I do feel my anxiety has improved throughout the pregnancy and I have a private wellbeing scan on Saturday which I'm sure will help 🥰

Constantly worrying and anxious. I’m 11 weeks and my symptoms slowly disappeared about 2 weeks ago. I have had maybe one or two days since with slight nausea. Still have pretty strong food aversions but all other symptoms seem to have gone. Scan is a week on Monday and I’m just trying to make it through each day until then. Going to be an absolute wreck come the day of my scan, just hope it’s all good news.

Hope you feel better soon 💕

I got my BFP last weekend for my first baby and am about 5 1/2 weeks. Got my booking appointment with my midwife on 24th Dec (Christmas Eve!). I have only known I’ve been pregnant for not even a week and have experienced all sorts of emotions already. I would say I am over the initial shock now but at times it all feels very overwhelming. I know that I am going to worry about every single thing throughout the entire pregnancy because it’s in my nature to worry about anything and everything! I really don’t want to be like this as I want to feel excited during my pregnancy as I know how lucky I am. Are you in a position to change Midwife’s if you’re not feeling completely supported? Congratulations by the way

I’m the same, had so many scans early on as obsessed that something was wrong. I had no symptoms at all which hasn’t helped.

25 weeks on Friday and still just as worried, I worry about movements now, tbh I should have gone to the Dr’s at some point, as it’s been awful particularly earlier on.

It’s getting a bit better now but I’m starting to worry about the birth now.

I'm 29 weeks with my 3rd and I'm exactly the same. I feel like I just have to get through each day to get one step closer to the end. I can't enjoy it at all. I was fine with my first, it didn't occur to me at all that something could go wrong. I was terrible with my second and also found that it got a lot worse after he was born unfortunately. If it gets as bad this time I'll definitely have to speak to someone. I have no reason to think anything bad will happen but I just can't stop the thoughts.

Hey everyone,

In one breath I am slightly relieved to hear that I am not the only one suffering with this but at the same time very sorry to hear all your anxieties as I certainly wouldn't wish this feeling on anybody!

I feel awful because I feel like I should be enjoying the pregnancy (I always thought I would, I never expected feeling this way!) as i know how lucky we are to be on the journey so i almost feel like I shouldn't be complaining about anything, but its so hard.

I think the lack of antenatal care hasn't helped, i feel I've been forgotten about (they know i have previously diagnosed depression and anxiety) and they said I would be supported when in reality, I've just felt alone and like a burden whenever i speak to the midwife on the phone. Ive not seen her since i was 8 weeks (25 now!!) didn't even have a call to discuss my blood results or anything from the 8 week appt.

It's shocking, and I'm upset as someone who is qualified and experienced in healthcare I would have never treated a patient in this manner which makes it feel so much worse.

I hope all you lovely ladies get the help you need and deserve, I think we will all have to start shouting a bit louder and i am always here for anyone who needs a rant etc!

Feeling a bit better today as my boy has been kicking and rolling about continually! But i know that feeling will come back as soon as he stops.... lord help me x