TMI - Painful sex 12 weeks after emergency c section

[DJBebe]

Even though it's been 12 weeks since my emergency c section sex is still very painfull. My vagina mussels were tight before pregnancy but now it feels even tighter and no change for a full penetretion even.
Does anyone know why and how to have it treated?
Thanks all

It’s really common. Things that can help that you’ve probably already tried - wait until you feel ready, plenty of foreplay and lube! Otherwise you could chat with your doctor - Oestrogen cream can be really helpful if you’re breastfeeding. And pelvic floor physio is also likely to be helpful for you - a good women’s health physio will be quite familiar with this kind of issue. It’s common and you’re not alone, it’s likely to just take a bit of time.

Thank you @TenThousandSpoons0 . I assumed because it was a c section it won't have any impact on my sexual life or in the worst case scenario just heal sooner. I am breastfeeding and again i haven't anticipated that this will have an impact either. FTM , i feel so naive. I thought the pelvic floor exercises will tighten it even more so I've not done any🤦‍♀️. It scares me the thought of things never returning to normal. 😔 x

Honestly OP, I know 12 weeks feels an age when you have a newborn but it's actually only a very short time. Things will heal and get better! 12 weeks after my first, I still couldn't sit down without wincing and struggled to walk further than 10 minutes due to birth injuries. Unfortunately there's a very strong narrative that women should "bounce back" after birth but quite honestly I know very few women for whom this is/was true. Try to relax, maybe take sex off the table for a bit if it's hurting and do your pelvic floor exercises. As pp said, you can ask for a referral to physio if things really aren't feeling right and they can help. There's no rush - your body has really been through the mill so take care of it and try not to panic x

Thank you both. x