Please help me - miscarriage MVA advice

[mrswilso]

I'm so lost ladies. Apologies in advance for the long post but I feel I need to give the background.

Long story short, I found out at 7 weeks that my gestation sac is empty. Opted and encouraged to wait and went back at 9 weeks - no changes at all. At this point it felt like they were much keener to intervene and suggest an MVA.
This is where I start to get a bit confused with myself...I'm super keen to just let this happen as naturally as I possibly can but I let her book me in for this Tuesday (would be around 12+4) for the MVA, thankfully I've insisted on a scan appointment before it and I really really hope things have started to happen on their own.

I don't feel like my desire to let this happen on it's own is being taken into consideration...has anyone else waited a long time to miscarry naturally and felt like they had to fight to do so?

I 100% understand that some people would cope better with having some sort of closure to it all but I'm fit and healthy with no signs of infection (I'm being temp checked every weekday in work too) or any other issues and I would much rather avoid intervention. I have a fairly high pain threshold so that's not my fear; maybe I'm a bit of a hippy, I just like to let my body do it's thing until I really really have to get involved - I'm not one for running to the doctor unless somethings wrong...and nothings physically wrong with me, my body's just not figured out that sacs empty yet.

I think I've decided I really don't want this procedure. Help 😭

PS - any fellow Fitbit/RHR nutters - my RHR seems to be showing that my body is starting to work out what's going on...another reason I'm keen to wait it out even just a bit longer...

No advice, but I naturally started this weekend (at 10 weeks), which is the first time I realised there was an issue. Good luck xx

I’m so sorry for your loss. I found out at a 12 week scan that baby had stopped growing at 7+4 but my body still hadn’t registered the loss 5 weeks later and was showing no sign of miscarrying naturally. I went ahead with an MVA and to be honest for me it was the best decision I made but you must do what is best for you. Good luck and sending a big squeeze. It’s a super tough time but have hope, I’m currently 31 weeks pregnant with our rainbow baby ❤️

I've done all 5 of my miscarriages at home naturally BUT you do feel like a ticking time bomb - I was scared to leave the house for too long in case the bleeding started (sometimes it can come on very quickly) luckily I was able to work from home but if I hadn't have been able to do that I would have had the MVA.

Hi,
I just got home last night following an MVA under general for a mmc. I had to push for this as they wanted me to do the natural approach. My last mmc 18 months ago was very traumatic indeed which saw me end up in A and E with heavy bleeding. I was not prepared for what I would pass ( 1st ever pregnancy) and I nearly ended up with infection and should have been transfused but my bloods were not repeated after the event so I ended up on iron tablets for a year with nearly 2 months off work.
For me the possibility of this happening again was too much for my mental health.
I have been pain free and comfortable with just some spotting since arriving home. I am very grateful for having this procedure and had Ben and Jerry’s Ice cream waiting for me when I got home.
Also because this is my third consecutive loss they will send the foetus off for kariotyping
I wish you all the best whatever choice you make XX