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7 weeks but not looking good, help

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babysnowman · 23/11/2020 18:29

I had a scan today, showing a gestational sac and yolk sac but no fetal pole. Things measured at 5 weeks but I think I am around 7.5, maybe slightly less.

They wouldn't confirm anything but said they would rescan me in 10 days. Although they haven't said it's over I'm sure it must be so I'm gutted. Anyone else been here?

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TeaBanditTeej · 24/11/2020 11:27

Please read my post link I sent yesterday. it's my story as I was in the exact same position as you. Stay strong!!!!!! Xx

babysnowman · 24/11/2020 11:32

Hi @TeaBanditTeej thank you that gives some hope and it's great that things are going well for you. We're your dates ever off though, ie did you think you were further along that what they said?x

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TeaBanditTeej · 24/11/2020 11:37

@babysnowman

Hi *@TeaBanditTeej* thank you that gives some hope and it's great that things are going well for you. We're your dates ever off though, ie did you think you were further along that what they said?x
Hey chick, I thought at the time I was 6 weeks and 6 days but the as per my scan it was only 5 weeks and 5 days in size and no heart beat. When I went back 2 weeks later, so on Thursday just gone, the little baby had grown so much!!! And the heart beat was so strong! I couldn't believe it as I thought I had actually miscarried and was expecting the worst. I really wish and hope that you have some good news, I'm sure it will be. You just have to stay strong.

Are you working today or chilling at home? When's your next appointment? Xxx

Vebrithien · 24/11/2020 11:42

You take care of yourself, if you need to cry, don't be afraid to let it out.

I've been in your situation twice.
One went one way, the other went the opposite way!

Last year, I had a MMC discovered at the 12 week scan, baby was there but no heartbeat. Needed surgery.

Three months later, at what should be 7 weeks pregnant, I had a little spotting, and something didn't feel quite right. EPU internal scan showed an empty sac, with no fetal pole, so about 5 weeks development. Had to wait a week to see if there was any growth. Growth was seen, but no heartbeat, and after another scan (at what should have been 9 weeks) there was still no fetal pole or heartbeat. More surgery followed.

Fast forward 3 more months, to late November, and I was rushed to hospital with bleeding, at what I was CERTAIN was 6.4 weeks pregnant. Scan showed an "irregular pod of fluid, consistent with a pregnancy of 4 weeks". I was convinced history was repeating itself.

One week later, being rescanned, there was a fetal pole and heartbeat, measuring at just under 6 weeks (I believed I should be almost 8 weeks by this point).

Two weeks after this, under consultant led care, I was rescanned, and baby was measuring at 10 weeks. We had a tricky pregnancy, with my waters going at 26 weeks, but DS was born at 34 weeks, and is now asleep on me, and teething!

The sizes are so small at this point, and it's all still to play for, embryos can 'catch up'. I hope for good news for you.

babysnowman · 24/11/2020 11:45

Thank you for being so nice everybody. I've taken today off and am just on the sofa with my duvet and a cup of tea. My appointment is next Thursday morning so after today I'll try to keep myself busy to distract myself x

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Bananas52 · 24/11/2020 12:06

@babysnowman I completely understand. It consumes all of your thoughts waiting for that next app and I was guilty of falling down a google rabbit hole. Definitely take a self care day or more if you need it, it’s a worrying time as you are just stuck in limbo. I will be thinking of you.

Kitte321 · 24/11/2020 14:09

I’m so sorry @babysnowman I’m in the exact same situation and I’m also sat waiting for another scan next Friday. You have my complete sympathy- it’s hell.
Because I’m so sure about my dates (it was a monitored clomid cycle) I know what the outcome will be. It’s sounds like you have more reason to be hopeful.
There’s nothing to be done but wait, hope and distract yourself as much as possible.
I wish there was a way to get an immediate resolution, I really do.
I’ll have everything crossed for you xx

babysnowman · 24/11/2020 16:37

@Kitte321 thank you, I'm sorry you have the horrible wait too. I really hope things work out for you next time xx

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Kitte321 · 24/11/2020 17:28

Me too! Going to focus on getting to Christmas then taking stock in January. Take care x

babysnowman · 29/11/2020 08:43

How is everyone today? I'm feeling really low, I don't even want to get out of bed or get dressed, been like this for a few days now. Only four more days til my scan but still torture.

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Kitte321 · 29/11/2020 09:34

Sorry @babysnowman it’s so hard. I’m trying to keep busy, I guess knowing what I’ll be dealing with on Friday almost makes things easier. I still feel petrified at the thought of going back to the EPU - having to go alone makes it so much worse.
Stay strong, whatever happens you will survive this x

Berryxxx · 29/11/2020 13:36

Im going through this too! I know exactly how you are feeling and I have to wait another 3 weeks :( hope you’re okay x

babysnowman · 03/12/2020 08:11

Have my scan at 9am, sick with nerves 😔

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Kitte321 · 03/12/2020 09:11

Good luck today @babysnowman. I really hope it’s good news for you 🙏

babysnowman · 03/12/2020 10:31

Unfortunately it was bad news, in my heart I knew it would be. They've sent me home with some leaflets to think about whether I want a medical or surgical management.

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Bananas52 · 03/12/2020 10:42

@babysnowman so sorry to hear this, sending lots of love. Take care xxx

Mysa74 · 03/12/2020 10:48

So sorry OP xxx

Kitte321 · 03/12/2020 13:03

Really sorry. It’s heartbreaking. Take care of yourself x

babysnowman · 03/12/2020 16:11

Thanks everyone, going in tomorrow to start medical management x

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anniebu · 03/12/2020 17:18

Sorry to hear it. I hope the medical management goes well.

babysnowman · 05/12/2020 20:23

Went in for the mm yesterday and got the tablets etc around 3pm. By 7pm I started cramping which was quite intense for a couple of hours. I started bleeding too but it has been fairly light. I know I haven't passed the pregnancy so I'm wondering whether it's going to happen at this point. I was ok when I found out the news on Thursday but now being back in this limbo again is horrible.

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Kitte321 · 05/12/2020 22:23

Sorry to hear it has gone as quickly as you hoped @babysnowman and you are stuck waiting again. I know the uncertainty is horrendous. I’m booked in for surgical management next week (looking like Tues). Let’s hope this nightmare is over soon x

babysnowman · 09/12/2020 23:46

Not sure why I'm writing here, probably just for somewhere to talk about it.

It all 'happened' on Monday, very short, sharp and intense, Since Tuesday night I've had a lot of bleeding. Maybe it's the sudden drop in hormones but since Monday night I've been bursting into tears without warning.

It feels like people have a few days of sympathy before breaking into 'it's just one of those things'/ 'nature has a way...' etc etc. So it feels like I have to deal with alone now.

It's just so sad when this happens. But we are all in this together and it will be ok xx

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Madwife123 · 09/12/2020 23:58

I’m so sorry. Have you been put in contact with the miscarriage association? They can be really helpful to talk feelings over with someone who understands it. Look after yourself and don’t feel you have to be alone x

babysnowman · 10/12/2020 00:12

@Madwife123 Thank you for being so kind, I'll look them up x

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