Partner doesn't want child and I'm alone

[Em2751]

Hi all so ive just found out I'm 7 weeks pregnant I'm 23 and partner is 25. He's completely shut down on me and has become so angry and distant. He's gone from my best friend to being so resentful of me and I feel he wants to leave me but feels obligated to stay now. I have told him he can be involved as much as he wants to be and if not I can do it alone, I can't get an abortion as much as he wants as I never thought I'd have kids due to eating disorders when I was a teen so it's a complete shock. I love him but I don't know what to do anymore I can't cope with the constant nastiness and arguments and I tried to be supportive but I get nothing back. Please help

Honestly, leave. You need a comfortable secure space not a stressful one. I had similar with my DD dad. We stayed together for a year but he resented me for keeping the baby and I resented him for trying to make me have an abortion. We broke up when she was a year old and now we get on much better and he’s a brilliant dad. But don’t stay in a situation where it’s just hurt, it won’t work out and you need to do the best for yourself and your baby

@Oneandabean I love him so much but it's so difficult to keep having the same fight over and over again and we won't tell his family. He's struggling with depression really badly and I don't want to tip him over the edge yet I can't stay with him when I'm made to feel like I've ruined his life. He said he wants me but not the baby.

Op this is awful, at the time when you should be getting excited for this amazing thing happening in your life (only if you're happy of course!) and he's ruining it for you.

Mine did similar but decided he did want the baby after all- didn't stop him from making pregnancy the saddest part of my life and I still resent him every day for it.

Babies change relationships completely whether it's a happy situation or not so either way, your relationship with him is not going to be the same again. No matter how much you love him, your little defenceless baby will be your number 1 love and priority.

Run like the wind, OP. Your priorities are different now and if he doesn’t have your back at a time like this, you will truly be so much better off moving forward and concentrating on your own well-being and that of your baby. Fighting and being made to feel guilty is so bloody draining.

Really wishing you luck