Miscarriage *Warning on content!*

[Bbmumma3]

Hi All,

I’m devastated, I lost my baby two weeks ago at 7 weeks. I started to spot and had a stabbing pain in my side. My other half was worried and called 111 and ended up in A&E. Husband could come. I was in there for 6 hours.

The doctor inspected me and literally pulled my pregnancy from my cervix and started talking about signing forms for disposal.

I’m not just devastated about the MC but also the way it happened. I keep having flashbacks.

This sounds awful but the doctor gave me codine for the pain, but now I’m. It taking them for pain. I just want to sedate myself and forget.

I just want to be pregnant again.

I’m sure the hormones are a little crazy right now and I’m still going through the miscarriage physically.

I’ve been told to wait a cycle to try again.

Has anyone else experienced this.

I feel like a headless chicken. I was so happy last week and now and it’s all gone.

*two days ago not two weeks!

I’m so sorry. This sounds awful. I also had a miscarriage and felt exactly the same about wanting to be pregnant again - I was lucky enough to fall pregnant again straight away. Sending you so many good wishes xxx

I’m so sorry for what happened to you. I’ve been through MMCs twice (nothing as dramatic as what happened to you) but I can promise you that once the hormones calm down a bit you will feel better. Please be kind to yourself in the meantime.

I’m ever so sorry for your loss and the trauma you went through at A&E. take sometimes to grief, your body May or may not be back to normal right away. I had a mc in April followed by another one in May. After the first one my body was ok so we conceived right away (was able to track my ovulation). However after the 2nd one, it took a bit of time for my body to be back and I felt the difference. My cycle got longer and unpredictable. All was back in august and now I’m in the early of second trimester. It will happen again but do allow yourself time to grief and heal. Sending you hugs and best wishes.

The miscarriage association have a helpline which can help you. The number is 01924 200799.

Unfortunately it is common.

I had this with one of my miscarriages, the gynae Dr said that if tissue was stuck in the cervix the labour pains are quite severe as the uterus is trying to expel it, the contractions get stronger as the body tries and tries iyswim.
My pain did stop after the tissue was removed thank goodness as I was on gas & air and had morphine up until that point and I didn’t want any more drugs, I just wanted the pain to stop.

When she explained this to me, it helped to make some sense of the situation.

It does get better

Hi OP - I’m so sorry this happened to you. It sounds very traumatic. You are going through shock and grief and it is quite natural to feel how you’re feeling. It takes time to process what has happened and certain moments are deeply painful and you can’t force yourself to move past it quickly.

Please know you’re not alone in this and talk to people who you feel comfortable with or call the Miscarriage Association helpline.

Wishing you all the best 💐

This also happened to me; I remember two doctors trying to pull out the tissue. They couldn't do it and sent me home. It was the most traumatising thing that has ever happened to me. I'm so sorry OP.

Hi OP,

I am so sad to hear this happened to you. Sending you lots of peace and healing wishes.

I had a MMC this week last year and I could have written your post - not for how your little one was removed but the sheer utter disbelief at how cruel life could be and how I would give anything to be pregnant again.

There were times I was so low after it, I couldn't bring myself to be hopeful or have any positive thoughts about the future ... I now have a three week old beautiful boy asleep in his little bedside crib next to me.

Be kind and gentle to yourself, allow yourself time to heal and don't give up. ❤

This happened to me just over a year ago op, I was miscarrying and I was rushed in to a room alone in the middle of the night disorientated and didn't really understand what they were doing or why - just that it was urgent . They then pulled the tissue out.
Within minutes I had forms about cremation/ ceremony / etc given to me - still alone.

It was absolutely awful and I feel your pain.

I'm now due a baby girl in a week or so and although the pregnancy hasn't been too bad it's been tough not to let panic and grief ruin this experience but mainly it's been good.

Take your time to heal before you try again because you need to be on top form for next time.