Moral dilemma please help

[Wingingitatlifesincebirth]

I am 9 weeks pregnant nearly ten and I am
Suffering from Hyperemesis having quietly battled and avoided hospital I have lost a stone still sick daily working from home with two elder children.

I had hoped to take some sick leave next week as I am hanging on by a thread I am exhausted sick and tired whilst my Husband is doing everything.

I work in a small team and I am so second in command sort of and it’s a stressful job, my boss had just indicated today she has MH and won’t be back for a while.

I am totally stressed by how awful I feel and now I will have this responsibility and I really feel I need some time off because of my
Own physical health but feel bad for my team.

Please can someone give me some views or opinions do a struggle on for a while in the hope
My boss Comes back or come clean and explain how Poorly I am ?

To me it's a no brainer.
Health comes first.
Take the sick leave that you need to feel better.
Unless you are self employed and your family's financial well being depends on you, a job is a job. It's your boss s responsibility to plan for situations like this. You shouldn't put yourself at risk over guilt.
Regardless of what you do.
If you become poorly because you exhausted yourself you will need longer time off, probably be resentful and it won't help.

I presume you've been assessed and are adequately treated for your hyperemesis?

Of course you should take time off.
If this was not a pregnancy related issue would you feel quite as bad about feeling quite as bad?!

No brainer - take time off. You are unlikely to be performing at your very best while feeling terrible.
Nobody is irreplaceable, no matter how much we like to tell ourselves that - you could get run over by a bus and your company is unlikely to go under because of it.

This is not a moral dilemma - it's work ethic vs health, no morals involved

@Pacif1cDogwood this is my third Hyperemesis pregnancy

[quote Wingingitatlifesincebirth]@Pacif1cDogwood this is my third Hyperemesis pregnancy[/quote]
Good grief, you are a stronger woman than I! Kudos.
I do hope it improves soon.

Have you had iv fluids? Iv Ondansetron? Plus oral tablets to take at home? A trial of steroids??
There's loads that can be done about it, but will v likely have to push for it. Always take a urine sample to whoever takes an interest in your plight (GP/midwife/hospital) so they can check for ketones.

I was pregnant 8x, had 4 healthy children, you do not need to explain yourself about feeling guilty towards the work place, really you don't. I just wanted to say (as I had to say to myself many times) just because you feel guilty does not actually make you guilty of anything.

Look after yourself.

Absolutely take time off and look after yourself - you and bump are the absolute priority

@Pacif1cDogwood I’m on ondansetron they won’t give me a stronger dose with my ketostix, as a bit of veteran I know I’m not dehydrated enough for admission.

I’m weak as water and taking any fluids that I can but they don’t always stay down and this is honestly the most weight I’ve lost in any Pregancy. I am at the point where I know if I don’t take some time I will be admitted

Another vote for work comes second to your health and wellbeing.

This will be me if we decide on a 3rd!

Another vote for health first otherwise you will end up being admitted to hospital (we both know this) if your ketones are getting too high I was told it can harm the baby. What would you rather put first? Work will always be there.

I know it’s hard I’ve been there and you feel like you are letting everyone down but for a small amount of time vs 40ish years of a career it’s not a big deal.

You need to put you and baby above all else!! Work will cope without you!