Anyone suffered from gender disappointment?

[Ginger33]

Pregnant with my second and for some reason I’ve started to get obsessed with having a DD. We think we’ll only have two and have a wonderful DS and I’m so surprised and angry with myself that I’m having these thoughts. They’re quite intrusive and making me feel anxious. Obviously I’ll be grateful and lucky to have a healthy child. The rational part of me knows that. But where have these thoughts come from and how to I deal with them so they don’t impact my feelings through this whole pregnancy? Has anyone experienced this?

I fully expect to get flamed for this but I’m only looking for advice as to how to rid myself of these horrible thoughts.

It really only started with I was talking with some friends and mentioned that I knew the exact date of conception as we only DTD once that month as husband works away. She told me that based on my dates and only having had sex once (right on OV) that it’s almost certainly another boy. She then said ‘you’ll have to try again for a girl’ to which I said we would probably only have the two and she said ‘oh that’s a shame’.

Now I feel like I’ll miss out if I don’t have a girl.

@tblock I just wanted to throw out there that I have similar feelings to the OP but a reverse in terms of boy/girl. I have an amazing DD and am just 5 weeks away from having baby number 2. We haven't found out the sex, but I've been convincing myself it's a girl, in part because I would really love for it to be a boy, but don't want to be disappointed if it isn't. I'm not sure if that method makes much sense, but not long left till they make an appearance.

As others have said I just remind myself the most important thing is that there'll be another little person, who has their own personality, feelings, thoughts and ways of doing things coming along. So excited to get to know them.

OP - thanks for posting this, it's something I've been worrying about too, so reassuring to read through and know I'm not the only one. Some comments from others during pregnancy can be so unhelpful. I've had so many 'oh wouldn't it be just lovely if it's a boy'.

@GrowingBaby2, it’s actually refreshing to see a mum actually want a baby boy. Just feel they get quite a rough time on here and with a lot of mums to be. I’m not saying everyone is like it, of course not, but I just feel baby boys seem to be an after thought with a lot of women. I just find it a bit unfair that’s all. Just my opinion.

It’s not gender disappointment it’s sex disappointment.

Please read up on the difference

@OverTheRainbow88 well aware of the difference thanks. Used the term gender as had I written sex disappointment in the title people may have skipped past it as they mistook it for a complaint about a bad shag. As it stands I’ve had some really useful replies which I’m grateful for.

I am quite the opposite but understand how you feel I was kinda hoping for a girl for my first pregnancy.. I had no idea how I'd bond with a boy and was worried even when he had arrived but then realised he's MINE and I got so excited about watching him grow.. fast forward 15 months and I found out I was pregnant again.. at my dating scan I found out I was expecting twins and it appears they were identical so obviously two boys or two girls. As much as I was happy as long as healthy with the increased risk with twins. I was hoping to be boys. Cause I love my little boy so much and love the little character he has. I am under absolutely no illusion it will be soooo hard day to day regardless I'm quite glad im having two more boys.. I'm now coming up 34 weeks and can't wait for them to be here.
Definitely don't beat yourself up about it everyone is more than entitled to their own feelings and no one should make you feel bad about how you feel! Take care :) xx

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